Probably because I still fear rejection.. Not as much, but it's still there. The AA is going away too, but not gone.

So I've been in a shit ton of situations where somehow I give off something girls like. It's not uncommon for me to be approached by women.. My only real relationships were when the girl did most the work, for some reason it was ingrained in my head that 'if a girl wants me she'll speak up, if not it's her loss' now, maybe that's why I get opened by girls.. But I expect them to do the work of escalation and obviously that's not happening most the time.

So how do I stop this mindset? And how do I start working on Kino/Escalation without psyching myself out?