I cannot understand what is so obviously repulsive about me to women and I really need help.

SojuBelly · 2014-01-24T04:03:35+00:00

I think your desperation is shining through. Girls can smell it from a mile away. When you were living with your parents, you probably cared a lot less and came off more natural that way. So do not give a fuck and be outcome independent. You've clearly worked on your outer game but your inner game needs some work.

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-01-24T05:20:42+00:00

I suspect you have a common enough problem, you were a "stay at home" guy during some of your early years, when many other guys your age were out getting experience with women. They got shot down a lot too, but they learned from their experiences. You didn't get those experiences to learn from. Now you are, and you're mature enough that it's more difficult to laugh off.

The good news is, it's not to late to get up to speed. There is nothing particularly exceptional about your condition, it's the same as many guys who had to make a deliberate effort to learn this seduction stuff. We all had to learn how to read the signals from women, how to interact with them, how to attract them, and more.

So start reading the stuff over in the sidebar. Get familiar with the basic concepts of seduction. Then you will get a general idea of what you need to learn, what experience you need to apply that learning, and how to find a direction for yourself. But more than anything, you have to enjoy the process of learning seduction and trying it on women. Sure there will be plenty of failures. And you should enjoy learning from them, rather than let them drag you down. You are already on the path to success, just by declaring your desire to change, and asking where to start.

TheHeadHunterr · 2014-01-24T14:29:41+00:00

You lost alot of weight but do you still have alot left to lose? How did you lose the weight?

Get a STRICTLY female friend and have her be honest with you. Maybe you're putting something out there that you don't realize.

lemahl · 2014-01-25T05:57:59+00:00

Oh I doubt you're repulsive, the guys in /r/creepyPMs are repulsive

Honestly just by reading text we're not going to diagnose you. If you think you could do this without getting defensive, try asking people who know you, especially any girls that friend zoned you for constructive criticism (like the ones that say you are naturally good looking). They'll be honest if you tell them it'll hurt you more in the long run not to know. Opening up yourself will make you vulnerable and it's hard, but it sounds like you're ready for change.

Good luck

mindfully_liberated · 2014-01-24T04:12:59+00:00

I really want to help you.

What is your age? Give me what you remember of your last approach.

black_headphone · 2014-01-24T10:54:37+00:00

The end goal is non-neediness or more accurately vulnerability. I recommend reading Models by Mark Manson and No More Mr. Nice Guy by Robert Glover.

Title	I cannot understand what is so obviously repulsive about me to women and I really need help.
Author	mbwahthrowaway
Upvotes	5
Comments	10
Date	January 24, 2014 3:56 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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