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[–]ItsNotAScam 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
The thing you aren't realizing is that you should be cold approaching CONSTANTLY. Aim for 30 a day. Then you will be able to approach anyone.
Just run daygame around campus. This isn't rocket science.
[–]SpeedCola1 points 12 years ago* [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
I'm not on a campus. I'm 26 and work full time ten hours a day as a mechanic and take night classes. My approaches are solely when I go out shopping or for lunch/dinner. I probably would drop these feelings if I did more approaches but my current lifestyle isn't really littered with women. Where I live I couldn't imagine actually coming across 30 females I'd be interested in. Soon as I find them attractive I feel paralyzed.
[–]ItsNotAScam 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Practice on less attractive women to hit the quota.
Just practice ALWAYS. If you work as a mechanic aren't there any women coming into the shop? If not go to a mall/stay on whatever campus you take classes at. I know there isn't much time, but if you just set a little aside you can get it done.
[–]readonlyuser 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Just being pedantic, but unless you live in an insanely high-quality city like NYC or LA, you're probably not running across a lot of honest-to-goodness 10's. Especially considering you wrote:
Where I live I couldn't imagine actually coming across 30 females I'd be interested in.
Just remember, there are girls out there who could blow these girls out of the water and make them look straight up dumpy. You're rolling up to mall workers and waitresses.
[–]bl1y 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
If you're hoping to pull from an instadate following a cold approach on a college campus, you're going to be disappointed. Your aim should be setting up a D2. You don't need to escalate at all when you first meet, this is day game, not club game.
As for how to not feel like you're value sucking, I've got a long answer for this that I'm just going to have to turn into it's own post at another time.
[–]SpeedCola1 points 12 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
I would really like to read that post!
[–]bl1y 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
It's more or less this comment
[–]Atti1a 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Sack up, just do it. The more you do it, the more you realize that you have nothing to be afraid of. Even if she smacks you in the face and says "fuck you you ugly piece of shit, dont ever even look at me again." you havent really lost anything. And most likely that is never going to happen. Most girls, if you approach with confidence, enjoy being talked to and will give you the time of day. The more you do this, the better you will become and the easier it will get. There is no secret or shortcut, just do it, fail, and do it again and then again.
tl;dr, Practice, just do it
[–]HappyJerk -2 points-1 points0 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
There is no such thing as a 10.
[–]SpeedCola2 points 12 years ago [recovered] (2 children) | Copy Link
Got it! How about really good looking girl that is intimidating me?
[–]HappyJerk 3 points4 points5 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
How can a girl intimidate you? What is she going to do? Beat you up? Call your parents? Drain your bank account. Worse thing that can happen is she rejects you.
Do this. Go find a guy who boxes. Ask him to punch you in the face. Great. Now, however bad that girl's rejection was, it won't be as bad as getting punched in the face.
[–]SpeedCola 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You are right I was being a bitch. I went out for lunch today and broke my habit of eating in isolation. Went to whole foods and approached two women. Both were married but I did go open and I actually feel better even though I have a little bit of the jitters.
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