(( I was going to write this down in my little notebook, but I realized that it is of broad enough interest that fellow members of r/seduction would find it useful. It kind of reads like a blog post or something; it's just ideas going through my head right now. Feel free to add your thoughts and examples, especially if some of my terminology is already in use.))

Girls want nice guys. What they don't want are "teddy bears". You may recognize them as unconditional givers of affection, cowards in confrontation, guys who have thoughts but can't bring themselves to say them, etc.

How can a guy be nice to girls while avoiding the attraction-evaporating state of teddybeardom? I call it the "challenge". Most everyday definitions of "challenge" coincide with this concept. At its essence, it is the willingness to disregard the feelings and needs of others, but it can be better understood by examples:

To the girl (active):

-Lightly tease her -Question her ("You'd really want to do that?") -Be persistent in getting what you want from her (even in case of a disagreement) -Be open with your feelings towards her -Dominant sex

To the girl (passive):

-Miss calls -Don't answer texts -Briely ignore her speaking to you -Have things going on with your life outside of her

To others (in the presence of girl): -Take charge -Initiate conversations (especially with strangers) -Many of the points mentioned in the first section