Getting Female Friends: I want to have more female friends in my life, but whenever its an attractive girl, I just want to get with her.. how do I go about this?

HappyJerk · 2014-03-12T15:17:18+00:00

Control yourself. If you can't be around a hot girl without trying to bang her then you're going to have a shitty life.

natephant · 2014-03-12T17:20:16+00:00

I have a rule that I live by, sometimes it's hard but you gotta have rules.

The rule is 'Don't get familiar' What that means is if I meet someone who is a friend of a friend, or in some other aspect that isn't with the intention of pickup/game, they are off limits. It may seem crazy, but I have amassed a huge number of really attractive friends, who know without a doubt that I'm not gonna get drunk and try to feel them up one night.

It works to my benefit because when other girls do see me Im usually surrounded by, or friendly with a lot of stellar women. So the instant I show a girl Im interested in attention, they take advantage of it and latch on.

Very few times I have run into the "is he gay?" When a girl will ask one of my female friends. It always gets a quick "haha no"

rusty84 · 2014-03-12T14:14:28+00:00

Attempt to get with them, get rejected, then become friends. Two birds with one stone.

mecaniqueducoeur · 2014-03-12T22:11:15+00:00

What's the first thing you notice about them—how attractive they are? Because that's probably what makes you wanna bang'em (I know that's how it is for me, heh). This is gonna sound weird but try getting to know them just as a person. If she's talkin' to you about the fact that she likes Gene Wolfe books but maybe not his latest series, don't stare dumbly at her boobs and nod, ask her why, even if you don't know who the fuck Gene Wolfe is. Find out. Pretend she's a dude. Something like that. My point is, if you take your mindset off the fact that she has a body you wanna fuck, it'll be a lot easier for you.

Making friends with girls is like making friends with anybody else. It's all in your head, man.

2014-03-12T14:37:05+00:00

Only do this if you're not going to get all oneitis. Try to get with girl, if it doesn't work, then just be friends (anId truly just be friends, don't get all depressed "how do I get out of the friend zone"

A lot of my friends are girls I've hooked up with in the past. But you can meet girls a number of ways, different hobbies etc.

Malicepoint · 2014-03-12T21:37:39+00:00

I have primarily only female friends (maybe a 4 males to 30 females ratio). In high school I had almost the opposite ratio because bros before hoes, or something like that.

I've come to the understanding that if we have sex it ruins almost any chance of staying friends with them. Not because I'm bad in bed (I'd like to think I'm great!), but because it just gets kinda weird after that. One of us might catch feelings, especially if we see the other with another person.

Knowing sex can make a strictly friends only relationship weird is enough to keep it in my pants. Yes, I'll flirt with them from time to time, but it is a playful flirt and we will move on after that.

It is hard to bring multiple girls together for a fun group event if you've fucked them all. Things can easily get out of control in that scenario. Maybe try to set a goal to find a number of female friends who will want to go to the beach or swimming or camping (drunk in the woods!) or to the bar, and invite them all together.

Sounds stupid, but you will have to learn to say "NO." to your dick right from the start. It isn't easy. It will pay off big time in the long run though! Having female friends can pay off big time! They get invited to parties and can make lots of connections that you might otherwise be unable to acquire. A good example is my friend "L" who has some excellent drug connects, my friend "T" who almost always gets invited to after-parties at bars, and "A" who has friends who lets her house-sit a beach front condo for 3 weeks every summer. Their friends will become your friends! Don't let your dick ruin this for you!

joshsway · 2014-03-12T12:14:19+00:00

get with them then convert them to friends is one approach.

tigolbittiez · 2014-03-12T20:12:55+00:00

Gotta pick your battles, bub. Get to know them, decide if they are cool enough to make them your friend, rather than a potential hookup.

There is no shortage of women. You can afford to pick a few up as wingwomen.

kingcal · 2014-03-12T15:47:00+00:00

Whenever you get rejected by a girl, just say ok and be friends with them.

elchoma90 · 2014-03-12T17:59:59+00:00

why on earth would you want this? are u girls gonna paint each other's nails?

ThePutana · 2014-03-12T14:36:03+00:00

There really is no need to have female friends homie. Unless you're banging them, i don't see how having a female bro would do you any good. I only have one and it's more than enough lol

suscitare · 2014-03-12T11:33:31+00:00

Why would you want to have female friends? They will always be asking you to fix things for them - don't.

Title	Getting Female Friends: I want to have more female friends in my life, but whenever its an attractive girl, I just want to get with her.. how do I go about this?
Author	lxd123
Upvotes	17
Comments	30
Date	March 12, 2014 11:16 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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