Hey everyone. This is a follow-up field report to my previous field report. You can find my original field report here.

We had texted a little bit between my last report and now, but i had decided that it wasn't something I was going to focus on pursuing. Rather, i was going to let it sit in the periphery, and if it worked out, great.

I got a text from her at about 10:00 oclock last night, saying she was in town for the night and asked if I wanted to have a slumber party. At this stage I was completely unsure, and turned to the IRC to help me decide if i should, or not. In the past she had simply repeatedly turned me on, let me get frustrated, and frame controlled the entire bed encounter. I decided tonight I was going to learn how to get past that. Last time she was over, the problem was that I had been COMFORT, but had escalated SEXUAL TENSION too quickly. She pulled back and wanted to see that SEX wasn't the only thing I was interested in.

I texted her back, but immediately started playing at something else. I asked her to pick me up some food on her way over, and when she said she couldn't find any I told her she "might be want to start looking for a hotel room. :P". She grabs some food, asks for my address, and when she gets here we talk and hang out for a while. We start kissing and I look her dead in the eyes and ask her "hey... can I ask you for a favor?" "Can I... can i get a back massage tonight? Seriously, fuck sex. I went to the gym today and i'm so fucking sore." She laughs and starts making jokes about me not caring about getting laid. I agreed and said "both of them feel fucking awesome, but im sooo sore right now." She says she'll give me one if i give her one (a shit test, but i knew how to over come it).

So most of the night we're shooting the shit, but i'm focusing on a few things. 1) frame control. 2) even though we're at my place, im showing her less body language openess than last time. 3) i'm using some of the congruence tests response techniques from RSD.

Eventually we get to bed, and we start snuggling under the blankets. I mention the back massage, and she gives some BS excuse. I immediately start talking about how my coach is a pull out bed, and she laughs and climbs on my back. I keep talking about other, un-related stuff as she massages my back (showing her that i wasn't obsessed with her touching my body).

She finishes massaging me, and we start making out. This time I escalate, but not too far, and then (as recommended in this reply to my previous field report stopped, gave her a kiss, and pulled back. She laid on her side, looking at me, and i gave her a seductive smile, as if to say "you're sexy, this is fun, and im content with just what we've done". My mindset this entire time HASNT BEEN "i want to fuck her brains out" but it HAS BEEN "I'm here to have a fantastic time." She pulls me back on top of her, the rest is history.

That, or she was on her period last time she was over and so didnt want me fucking her. Who knows.