How do you handle girls falling for you after just a couple of dates?

rednailz · 2014-03-22T18:32:40+00:00

Be honest. Tell them exactly what your intentions are. If you sense they are going along with it until you "come around" then break it off.

You can't keep them in a zone you want them in. They're people and they want things too so let them choose.

2014-03-22T19:14:25+00:00

Ugh thanks this was a question I've been wondering...my one-itis gets triggered so hard when someone falls for me, but that keeps me in relationships I never intended to get into. That self-awareness is all I've got atm.

So far what I've found is women really respond to honesty, but not the sledgehammer-brutal kind. Right now I'll tease them with "you're falling for me / it's been awhile for you hasn't it" to signal my mindset. They don't raise it again, it worked, there's an unspoken mutual respect.

The 2 that really pushed it I just came out with "I'm not ready for a relationship, I'm trying to meet new people"...and it wasn't received well. I encouraged them to date other guys and that pisses them off, not my intent.

Finally I just come out with the big guns about what I'm going through, that I need to first keep a plant alive, then keep a cat alive, THEN I'll THINK about a relationship if I meet the right woman. I feel like I'm using this as a crutch, curious what the guys who have their shit together would do.

EDIT: easy to get a plant, harder to keep it alive and so forth

2014-03-22T18:37:17+00:00

I've had this happen a few times now since I've grown proficient in seduction and pick-up. Telling them you love spending time with them but aren't ready for a relationship anytime soon is really the only thing you can do. When I've done this things always ended shortly after because they couldn't take no for an answer.

rusty84 · 2014-03-22T20:33:33+00:00

From my experience those girls tend to be the type of girls that are either desperate (I.e., want to be in a relationship for no other reason than to be in one, need attention or someone to water down their insecurities, etc.) or faking the interest (e.g., one girl told me she loved me after 6 dates than dumped me after our 7th date).

Exxsanguination · 2014-03-23T03:16:40+00:00

I've never actually had this issue :(

hairaware · 2014-03-22T22:17:40+00:00

Found it happening too. No matter what the date or location or what I say. I think it's just a result of being different from most guys. Best way to handle it is just be honest. They may be a bit pissed or leave but it's not what you want anyways. alternatively if you dont care just string em along for as long as you want.

2014-03-23T02:03:40+00:00

Experience tells me they fall out of love as quickly as they fall into it.

diggityd2713 · 2014-03-22T19:35:35+00:00

Man am I happy you posted this question, no joke I am in the exact same situation right now.

asad16 · 2014-03-23T03:55:30+00:00

Not sure if this is a brag post, but it sure as hell sounds like it. You meet these girls who like you, yet you can't communicate a simple fact about yourself? Interesting.

Title	How do you handle girls falling for you after just a couple of dates?
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Date	March 22, 2014 5:59 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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