Is PUA just for sex with sluts? Or can it be used to develop a loving connection?

UndidIridium · 2014-04-28T15:23:29+00:00

First off, slut shaming is not cool. That said, as far as your question goes, it really depends on what your objective is. This PUA/seduction subreddit is primarily about self-improvement. If a person uses the knowledge from here to sleep with as many HBs as he could to run up his score, that's his prerogative. If a person uses knowledge from here to get in the game to "get out," meaning, to find his one, special HB to invest into an LTR with, that's his prerogative as well. It all boils down to what you want to do with the tools available to you. No judgements.

TimPartendale · 2014-04-28T15:40:34+00:00

PUAs seem to only go after sluts as they are more likely to have sex than a women doesn't have sex with randoms.

I'm a pick-up artist; both girls I've had sex with it was their first time. I also then became their boyfriend for a time after that. One girl I was honestly considering marrying her but she lives in Italy and our long-distance wasn't working out. I want to say, as a random internet stranger, that you sound very ignorant. I'm not out there trying to get easy sex, I'm out there trying to have a good time and trying to have fun. Until you realize this then you'll never be a good PUA.

just have sex with any girl that lets them, and they are usually low quality too

Then you don't understand true pick-up, only trash. Inherently, you sound arrogant and above all this so how about you continue doing what you do and not get results? :P Besides, how do you know that these women are low quality? Women aren't allowed to have sex? What is this the 15th century?

Obviously stuff about developing fake personalities and memorizing scripts would go out the window here. I don't even understand the point of PUA. Is it about developing a fake personality due to low-self esteem or about changing your current faults so you can be a better person?

No, you clearly don't understand PUA at all, did you read "The Game" by Strauss and base your entire perception about what we do from that? Fake self-esteem? I personally am trying to empower guys for life. The things you read here about how to make great conversation, eye-contact, and overcome approach anxiety all help shape a better you. There are guys out there who need all the help they can get and they find it here.

TimP

kryptonyk · 2014-04-28T15:41:13+00:00

If you think it's only about sex, you're either very young or very mentally limited. PUA is about engaging people and being able to earn their interest/respect at will. What you do after that is completely your choice, and it can go a thousand different ways.

2014-04-28T15:43:14+00:00

It has been said before in here and other PUA/seduction resources: let go of the concept of sluts. To use your words ...guys main objective is to just have sex with any girl... you just defined a male slut as well. It took me a while to understand, it might take a while to you as well, but try to forget that word, its meaning, and similar words.

I am an old Redditor and a long time follower of the PUA/seduction community. While the majority of the content in /r/seduction is geared toward meeting women in bar/clubs and gaming them; there's a smaller philosophy within the community that focuses on becoming a "Confident Modern Male", if you'll have to read through the mainly posting and comments, but you will find that philosophy as well. One of the notable figures that comes to mind is the late work by Postmasculine/Mar Manson. I am not affiliate with him, I like most of what he writes, especially in the past year or so.

If you want an example I personally have shared something that has been in my mind for a few days, take a look, http://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/246m0n/learning_seduction_from_george_clooney/ .

To me it's not so much about seduction but it's more about generating attraction; not so much about gaming women to sleep with them but gaming myself to live the best life I can, women is a byproduct of that.

I wonder if at some point in the near future the PUA/Seduction community will have a more visible split between the "how to pick up women" and "how to be a Confident Modern Male".

So, hang out here, read everything, filter the content that fits your philosophy and personality, and contribute what you can.

Uptonogood · 2014-04-28T14:49:15+00:00

Are you seriously asking that? Because we are to change our whole being. Improve our lives and face our demons only for some "sluts" as you might say?

This question is fucking retarded, you do whatever the fuck you want with pua, It's not like there is a secret council lair which regulate its uses.

btw. We don't take too kindly with this misogynist "slut shaming" attitude around here. Don't judge others by their sexual history, its frikking 2014 already.

EliahtheMessiah · 2014-04-28T15:40:20+00:00

Ether/Both.

ThePUA_Baddie · 2014-04-28T15:46:11+00:00

There's two parts to PUA, seducing women and improving your lifestyle. The ones who choose to seduce either do it to have sex with a lot of girls or they do it to meet a lot of girls and further their chances of developing a relationship. PUA is not just about fucking chicks at clubs. There's also a thing called daygame which leads to RELATIONSHIPS if that is what you're seeking. So you can fuck as many chicks as you want or go on as many dates as you want until you find the girl to settle with, it's up to you

Title	Is PUA just for sex with sluts? Or can it be used to develop a loving connection?
Author	EveryDayAGoodDay
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Comments	10
Date	April 28, 2014 2:42 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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