I get women, lots of one nighters, but...

Thr0wnAwaay · 2014-05-12T01:26:17+00:00

You've got to learn to filter things which strike other people are too harsh. You can only do that by getting feedback directly from those you offend. If you're still on speaking terms with any exes, maybe ask them to give you examples of how you were too blunt in the past.

2014-05-12T01:49:24+00:00

How you communicate your intentions and feelings may be the issue. The way you say things is just as important as what you're saying.

ithearrow · 2014-05-12T03:17:22+00:00

Change your behavior and mannerisms. If you want a relationship ,you need to communicate your intentions to the women you like. Typically, relationship behavior is going on dates with each other, being there with one another, connecting on a deep level, gift giving... stuff like that.

puaCurveBall · 2014-05-12T08:42:31+00:00

Work on your communication.

Being straightforward and honest is a great way to live your life. I get told the same and I have a lot of ongoing stable relationships.... so it is something else.

Are your honest opinions coming with baggage of how you expect to be treated or demands you are making on other people?

Do you really not have empathy for other peoples emotions, and does that come across in your "honest" talk with them? If so, then work on your empathy as well, no one is obligated to be in a stable relationship with a guy that doesn't really care about them.

I can't maintain a stable relationship.

Maybe I get bored too fast

Do you even WANT a stable relationship? What are your goals? If your goal is stable relationships, then why are you worried about being bored?

If your goal is to have a bunch of exciting ONS, then of course you are going to be bored.... but if your goal is stable relationships, I'd really examine your actual desires if you are feeling bored, because something isn't matching up

Apex_of_Attraction · 2014-05-12T12:21:43+00:00

A low value person is nice because they have to be. If they aren't kind they will step on the toes of those who are higher social status than them and get in trouble.

A high value man is nice because he decides to be. People responding positively to him and respecting him doesn't depend on his kindness. That's why it's even more admirable for a high value man to be so.

Demonstrate gestures that you care. Although you and I wouldn't watch a Hugh Grant movie, there's no denying that girls love "the fairytale". There's no textbook needed. Tell the truth and do nice things for people.

In terms of your boredom, I was where you were until a friend suggested that I read "the prince and the fox" (it should only take 5 minutes). It talks about how it's not so much the girl that is special to begin with, but how the time you spend together with her makes her special to you.

simplisticallysimple · 2014-05-13T07:26:23+00:00

You're just not boyfriend material. You're too unneedy and too unsafe (read: attractive to other women), so girls don't feel secure having you as their boyfriend.

SmellyJelly22 · 2014-05-12T01:12:13+00:00

People say you're an asshole.

So you're an asshole.

Stop being an asshole.

That's really it.

Title	I get women, lots of one nighters, but...
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Date	May 12, 2014 1:10 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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