Let's say a girl liked you at a party because you had a high energy and you were funny. But when you take her out you're not gonna be that guy at the party. Solution?

recyclablebantha · 2014-05-13T00:43:51+00:00

She liked the super high energy guy who made everyone laugh at the party. But the day after the party you take her out to a walk and you're not gonna be that funny guy. You're just chilling and talking. So she won't wanna hang out with you anymore.

What's the solution to this?

Stop trying to be the Dancing Monkey. It doesn't work well to try to attract by being The Entertainer and you've just found out why: it doesn't lead to real mutual attraction. It leads to an audience who wants a show.

puaCurveBall · 2014-05-12T23:07:49+00:00

I think she realizes you are a human being...

whatdoy0uknow · 2014-05-13T00:59:32+00:00

be a solid congruent rock, you should still be the confident guy at the party, just under a different setting and energy level.

AnonyBot32 · 2014-05-13T03:05:09+00:00

People who do that "super high energy" thing all the time get really annoying, in my opinion. So she's probably neither hoping or expecting it anyway.

2014-05-12T23:00:19+00:00

I need to know, too.

Ru5k0 · 2014-05-13T00:15:34+00:00

She should realise it's a different environment entirely. Who the fuck expects a guy to be jumping around and picking people up on a casual stroll through the park?

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-05-13T01:36:44+00:00

She's not going to be in the same mood as she was at the party either. She will have cooled off a bit since you last saw her, but she is predisposed to warm quickly. And she wants to see other aspects of your persona. She already met Mr. Party Animal. She will feel closer to you if she sees you in other environments, in different moods.

AntixD · 2014-05-13T05:19:41+00:00

find the perfect balance of both,it takes time,but god is it worth it when you reach the peak

theking2014 · 2014-05-12T23:07:52+00:00

Be that funny chill high energy guy again

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