Hey guys! I am currently writing an article on the "power of now" idea, inspired by Eckhart Tolle's homonymous book. I am focusing on different ways to apply the Idea of NOW (being present) to our everyday lives and also understand how it is related to seduction.

Being present while in an interaction with women has always been a sticking point for me. I was always distracted by my external environment and instead of focusing on the interaction with the girl, I was thinking stuff like:

  • is anybody looking at me
  • she is too hot for me
  • she feels bored
  • i am gonna fuck it up, etc.

It has taken me a lot of time to realize the true power of Now and how it can help me shift my awareness to the interaction only. To help me lose myself to the present moment and this way absorb the girl into my reality.

So, I have listed 5 of the most important practices I use on a daily basis that help me stay present. I thought you can share your thoughts and suggest the practices that help you.

1) Meditation. There is no need to elaborate on this one. Obviously Meditation is the most popular practice that is strongly related to being present and focused.

3) Understand that you are not your mind. Our relationship with our mind is extremely complicated. It is a power-control relationship where we have no clue who has power over whom. Is our mind controlling our actions or are we giving orders to our mind? Well it works both ways but unfortunately most of us fall into the trap of allowing our mind to take full control over our actions. This way most of the time we are not conscious of our actions and we don't know how to change that.

3) Stop caring about earthly problems. I call earthly problems everyday distractions that are affecting our mood and try to dominate our mind. Stupid little pity thoughts like: "My flatmate didnt do the dishes and I need to do them again". "My boss gave me a stupid, boring task again", "I don't have any friends and the people I hang out with are stupid". You get the general idea. I believe that by eliminating these thoughts, you can become present way faster.

4) Embrace Higher Values in your life. This is directly related to the earthly problems issue and I consider it the next step. After you stop caring about earthly problems you need to start thinking big. Having a purpose, a goal, a strong belief system and taking action towards developing yourself can help you become more aware of yourself and what you want from life. This is actually strongly related with the idea of Now and being present, because you will start embracing the totality of what you do, without being affected by external factors.

5) Find a mentor. From life coaches, to seduction and yoga coaches, I strongly believe that a coach can help you understand the philosophy behind the power of now. This way you can get immersed in the whole process easier and faster.

I'd love your take on the subject. What you think of the idea of Now and how it is related to seduction? What are your experiences? What have you done in order to embrace the notion of presence and make it part of your everyday life?

All the contributors are going to be mentioned in the article (obviously with your permission).

Cheers.

Andrian