You know how you start relationships that usually lead to a dead end?

This happens mainly for two reasons:

  • You haven’t precisely defined what you want from your partner and failed to communicate it effectively.

  • You fail to understand that relationships are hard work.

You think that because you somehow managed to attract and eventually seduce another person, this attraction will last forever.

Well, think again.

Women are attracted to specific characteristics. I guess that since you got the girl in the first place, you managed to successfully adopt those characteristics and props for that.

But I also assume that you failed to keep the girl, or that you got bored of her, or that for some reason or another, at some point the fairytale gone bad.

Well, because this pattern will keep repeating itself in the girls you will meet in the future, it is time to wake up and face reality as it is; raw and painful.

Divorce rates have soared over the past decade. People cheat on a regular basis without experiencing the slightest feeling of self-remorse. Single parents are a common theme among so called civilized western societies.

And the thing that annoys me the most? Everybody is whining about their inability to meet the right person.

You know who whines? Babies whine.

And obviously if you want to be treated like a baby then you are not ready to enter a serious relationship with another person.

Now listen up. If any of the following applies to you, then don’t start a relationship under any circumstances.

  • You haven’t educated yourself with regards to what women and responsively men want.

  • You haven’t experimented enough with girls in the past in order to test this knowledge.

  • You don’t understand social and behavioral dynamics.

  • You are not comfortable with your social skills.

  • You don’t feel comfortable around women you don’t know.

All these are crucial parameters of the relationship equation and the sooner you realize it, the sooner you will stop whining.

I stress out the importance of these parameters because no one seems to pay attention to them. Everybody suddenly becomes a self-proclaimed expert and decides that he is ready to enter a serious relationship.

What most of you fail to understand is that relationships are hard work and that in order to enter one, you need to be ready to perform.

If you are not ready to perform please do yourself and the rest of the world a favor and stay single.

And obviously this is not a one-way street. The way you are supposed to perform and constantly invest in yourself, the same way your significant other needs to understand this new reality and also perform at the same level.

Otherwise, you are flirting dangerously with disappointment and regret and eventually you will be the one hurting the other person because she won’t be able to follow your performance levels.

So please if you see that your girl is unable to follow, do her a favor and explain to her what performing means. If she fails to understand then obviously she is not ready for a serious relationship.

Never stay in a relationship for the wrong reasons.

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