I live in Europe and people in their 20s don't go on dates. What do you do when you get a girl's number?

rusty84 · 2014-06-14T21:53:18+00:00

Another problem that I have is that when I ask a girl's number after chatting with her for a while on the street/bar/party she says "I don't know you. I don't give my number to people." She says that even after I make her laugh. How do I deal with this?

That means you're game isn't tight and you're not comming off as an impressive enough person. Also, most girls will be nice when you talk to them even if they're not attracted to you, so laughing doesn't mean anything and just because you're having a good time doesn't mean she is. And obviously everyone dates everywhere.

Advice: be more interesting and captivating. Get the girl to open herself up to you about her family, passions, job, dreams, etc.

BulldawzerG6 · 2014-06-14T21:41:42+00:00

People have coffee together all the time in Europe. We also go on dates and have movie-like first kisses on bridge or something. You seem to be too socially isolated.

Get the number first, you don't have to go on a insta-date, even tho ideally you would. But number first, stop mentally masturbating about what you could/would do and take action.

theking2014 · 2014-06-15T00:08:26+00:00

OP you're scaring me. You're not gonna be a European Elliot Rodger are you?

IranianRabbit · 2014-06-15T09:11:09+00:00

Guys, don't talk about crap you have no idea about. I'm from the US and lived in Germany. Germans DO NOT give out numbers... They feel like it's sacred or something. In Germany you need to go for the Facebook.... The same applies for Switzerland

theking2014 · 2014-06-14T22:13:26+00:00

Man what? I've been on 10 dates in 2 months here in Europe. And that girl is shit-testing you.

SiXXEros · 2014-06-14T22:20:57+00:00

Stop putting limits on yourself. Do YOU want to go out on a date? Then have an idea of what you'd like to do, plan the logistics around it, then invite a woman out. Plan, execute, fuck.

Also, read the Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle. This will answer much of everything else you're about to ask me.

theking2014 · 2014-06-14T22:39:02+00:00

What country are you from? I'm from Russia, we're pretty much straightforward.

Shots74 · 2014-06-15T00:35:16+00:00

your name should be the bubbleking2014. I'm not sure what culture doesn't go on dates to get to know one another. It appears you are very socially awkward and don't know what actually happens in the world.

OnLetttingGo · 2014-06-15T04:02:56+00:00

You tell her that's exactly why you need her number, so she CAN get to know you!

PostHedge_Hedgehog · 2014-06-15T00:03:40+00:00

Which country do you live in? Europe is a very diverse continent FYI. In Scandinavia, going for a coffee is the norm, but a lot of people also do other things which depend on the interests of the people involved. Say, go to an architecture exhibition or a concert. Or a picnic in a park, if it's nice weather.

2014-06-15T00:49:40+00:00

Instant date. Go to a coffee shop right away and take a walk with her.

Bigtymer22 · 2014-06-15T02:05:00+00:00

Don't ask for her number until you feel she's built up enough attraction to you. Sometimes you'll talk to a girl and its not even worth asking.

throwaway_quinn · 2014-06-15T15:51:35+00:00

It doesn't matter what "people" do, it's what you do. Come up with something interesting to do -- explore some weird part of the city, test-drive a motorcycle, whatever -- and tell her she can come with you if she likes.

when I ask a girl's number after chatting with her for a while on the street/bar/party she says "I don't know you. I don't give my number to people."

The more elaborate a refusal, the less seriously you should take it. A girl who looks at you and walks away without a word is almost un-open-able; a girl who gives you a long disquisition on why you suck is begging you to talk her out of it.

Steer into the skid. Say, "That's smart; that's a good policy. I could be a terrorist, I could be a rapist. You just never know." She'll nod, uncertainly. You continue, perfectly confidently, "On the other hand, maybe..." Let her prompt you for the other hand and say, "Maybe it's just what you need."

Renanzito · 2014-06-22T05:56:37+00:00

Ok, are you good looking? Despite what a lot of people say (to sell their shit), it's still the most important thing, attraction (yea confidence is a big turn-on, but keep in mind looks matter), I'm not trying to lower your self-esteem (which seems to be low), but that might be your awsner, don't be afraid to try and get a new haircut/beard game, dress well, really really well and I dont mean expensive shit or lux brands, but good looking/fitting clothes, also try not to be fat. I'm brazilian, never been to Germany whatsoever nor experienced your kind of problem (did you try more than once for real?), still, I'm rather sure if you follow these tips your success rate will increase a lot, aren't you in a comfort zone about your style/haircut and there's lots of space for improvement? Maybe that's not your case but I see this way too often so that's why I'm saying

Title	I live in Europe and people in their 20s don't go on dates. What do you do when you get a girl's number?
Author	theking2014
Upvotes	5
Comments	40
Date	June 14, 2014 9:36 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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