Have you had any success with a dating site?

UjiButsu · 2014-06-23T17:21:29+00:00

Yeah. After a few odd dates, a few more flakes, I met my current GF on Match.com. We've been dating for 4 months. It's a good relationship. The most common frustration with dating sites is that women would not respond or would only give a one sentence answer. I found it hard to get the momentum going. But I'm sure someone would say I wasn't employing strategies that would have helped.

joshsway · 2014-06-23T17:52:54+00:00

Yes. Met serious girlfriends, slept with triple digits, etc. I say it time and time again but people don't believe me: online dating, for most people, is by far the easiest way to get women. And I'm 5'8" and more or less average looking.

rosickness12 · 2014-06-23T18:18:41+00:00

Met my current girlfriend on POF. I'm constantly astounded by how perfect of a match we seem to be. It appears we got insanely lucky to find each other in the sea of crap people out there. Both of us were nearly to the point of deleting our accounts before we met.

Think of it as a numbers game. If your objective is to get laid, send off lots of messages (make them interesting), have attractive pictures of yourself, go out and meet people. Don't spend ages messaging, that's a waste of time. Send a few messages back and forth, then make the move in asking them out on a date. Since we're playing high numbers games, make your dates cheap or you'll go broke. Coffee has to be one of the best options. It's safe for them, cheap for you, and a good way to start chatting in person.

I also had a few casual relationships from that site. I've talked to those girls about their experiences and it's hilarious what girls go through on those sites. They get constant messages, but most of them are like "Hey baby, you sexy" or "Daaayum! We should hang out." All of them told me I stood out because I read their profiles, asked them questions about things in it in my initial message, and seemed genuinely interested in them. You have to stand out in the crowd to get your shot.

Uptonogood · 2014-06-23T18:46:01+00:00

Yes. Plenty. I used it for a while for F-closes. (And they used me for the same I guess.)

Some advice for starters:

You have to understand it's a numbers game. Never waste your time. If she's unresponsive or in anyway stalling, you next her. ALWAYS go for a real date in the first 10 messages, If she changes the subject or stall. NEXT!

You have to realize that she's have to be willing to meet you as well. There is absolutely shit that you'll tell her that will convince her meet you if she's not already willing to meet people, so don't waste your time.

Go for public places for dates, women are generally nervous about meeting directly in one's house for the first time (not that I haven't done that).

And in the end. Be honest about what you want. You'd be surprised how much more effective it is than any "deception" you think you have to do.

CatholicGirlsScareMe · 2014-06-23T17:20:42+00:00

Little to none. I don't count casual sex as success. Those women could give two shits about who I am. But, I sometimes succumb to my baser instincts. Anyone that seems genuinely interesting fizzles out before we even have a chance to properly get to know one another. Too much attention paid by other prospects, I suppose. I'd give it all up, but I am incapable of IRL introductions. Introversion is a dibilitating bitch.

2014-06-23T18:07:18+00:00

Met my wife on POF. Two kids now and happily married.

bl1y · 2014-06-23T21:02:54+00:00

Your submission was removed because there's plenty of previous posts discussing how to use dating sites.

Title	Have you had any success with a dating site?
Author	rosickness12
Upvotes	10
Comments	21
Date	June 23, 2014 5:13 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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