I understood the concept of seddit, but I always forgot those important points when I got the opportunity to execute my readings. Any tips how to ALWAYS remember doing what I've learnt from seddit, when I was actually dealing with a girl (or anyone)?

ThrowawayPUA · 2014-09-16T15:40:51+00:00

Practice. Don't think about pickup when you are talking to girls. Think about it afterwards, when you are evaluating how you did.

blastanova · 2014-09-16T16:57:58+00:00

You may be learning the wrong lessons.

If you are trying to memorize a list of steps to perform, you will forget them.
If you are trying to memorize an opener, or a specific tease or "neg" word-for-word, you will forget the exact phrasing and stumble over your words. At best, your line will come across as rehearsed and cheesy.
If you are trying to memorize steps on a flow chart to guide you through an interaction, you will freeze up and get caught in your brain trying to figure out what happens next.

In short, if you're performing, you're going to trip up at some point. And women don't find it attractive when they can tell a man is putting on a performance for them. That is how you get labels like "dishonest," "insincere," and "creepy."

If you adopt the correct mindset and attitude when you go out, there's nothing to remember. It's all about your mentality, and you don't need to sweat the details.
If you spent your time on seddit learning what your personal values and traits are, and simply worked on incorporating those into how you present yourself, turning on the "charm" is as simple as remembering to be honest in how you present yourself.
Things like kino and other non-verbal communication are all about sub-text. The action you perform is less important than why and how you are performing it. You can touch a girl on the arm and come across as friendly, or you can touch her arm and be seen as creepy. No amount of planning and reading can teach you effective non-verbal communication. It's something that you need to learn through practice and experience. So go out, make mistakes, learn, try again.

The things you learn reading about pickup should be about improving yourself, rather than improving a "routine."

ambrosiris · 2014-09-16T12:58:00+00:00

First things first you gotta get comfortable talking to these girls and any stranger you meet really. Seriously, you'll see results from just approaching like you are, a lot of the things you read will come up naturally once you're in that zone. Once you're comfy you can work on fine tuning, sitting back and analyzing a bit - the hardest part is just starting to approach regularly and getting that confidence.

thatsnotveryoriginal · 2014-09-16T17:59:21+00:00

Set your top tips as your background on your phone. Make sure girls can see it when you hand the phone over to put their number in.

itsmevichet · 2014-09-16T13:47:54+00:00

Stop thinking so much. You have two jobs active jobs and one passive one: be fun, escalate, and pay attention to her reactions to your escalations.

funnyfarm299 · 2014-09-16T15:41:08+00:00

I've heard that even if you forget everything else taught here, always be escalating.

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