Just re-read Models. Few questions on vulnerability..

alltrueism · 2016-03-12T17:11:37+00:00

Save the expression of your passions for the date. After a connection has been established, then you can text here and there to further establish rapport.

The idea of vulnerability is putting yourself out there with confidence. That won't come through via text initially. Like Mark says, it's your intentions that matter, not so much what you say.

If a girl sees a dude excitingly spouting ideas and intrigue about a movie trailer, and she has any interest at all in you, she will by proxy get excited with you, thus increasing attraction by association.

SebastianCallow · 2016-03-12T18:16:36+00:00

Vulnerability appears to be a somewhat confusing topic since typically vulnerability is associated with weakness. However, the reality is that it arises from strength.

The clearest example of this can be found in body language. The best body language is also the most vulnerable, with the arms down by the sides. The worst body language is defensive, where one covers up and protects parts of their body due to nerves. It takes a certain internal strength to adopt good body language and stand in a vulnerable position.

The same also applies to every aspect of ones communication and expression. Vulnerability illuminates strength, not weakness. Only one who is strong has the capacity to be vulnerable.

In the example you give you use the word 'needy' not vulnerable. There is a huge difference here. Needy is not vulnerable, and vulnerable is not needy.

It is vulnerable to tell a woman exactly how you feel about her with raw honesty and a total openness to however she might respond. This illuminates strength.

It is needy to tell a woman how you feel about her in the hope that she will like you because of it. In this case you literally 'need' her to like you because of your action. This illuminates weakness.

In the example you give, if you feel like talking to her a little more just for the enjoyment of it, to shoot-the-shit, go for it. However, if your motivation is to get her to like you more, forget it. The latter is needy, the former is not.

throwitawayagainyay · 2016-03-12T19:15:28+00:00

Leave texting for short quick quips and (mainly) logistics. Leave talking about stuff outside of texting.

erythrocyte666 · 2016-03-12T21:50:11+00:00

As for texting, Manson directly addresses this - keep texting straightforward and to the minimum; it's primarily for setting up a date. Whatever effort you put into texting is futile as it won't mean much in the long run.

Also, for the dilemma of being vulnerable while not needy, you're missing one thing. You have to have a clear idea of what kind of things you like and what sort of things you will not tolerate. If you accommodate her even when she crosses those boundaries, you're being needy.

Also, vulnerability is about more openly sharing your deeper self than anything else.

Title	Just re-read Models. Few questions on vulnerability..
Author	clariness
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Date	March 12, 2016 11:30 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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