Why Tinder is terrible for inner game, seduction, and remaining mentally sound

weezywayne · 2014-09-30T18:09:07+00:00

So I started out on /r/Tinder a couple months back - although I was familiar with Reddit, that was the first time I ever used it to get info. A month on /r/Tinder (and the app) had me utterly defeated, basically wishing I was dead, looking at how great things were for the chosen few and how worthless my life was. It got me lifting almost obsessively and bulking like crazy (it's going pretty well, so thanks to Tinder for that), but aside from that was making me the most depressed, angry, and frustrated I have ever been - which is saying something.

Then someone recommended Models and Seddit about a month ago. And it's slowly been saving me from my despair. I know the looks debate isn't even a debate here, and you guys are far more knowledgeable than I. I'm still working through my life experiences/time on Tinder/time on the Tinder sub, so I'm not 100% a "looks don't matter" subscriber, but I think it's probably mainly true. Aside from Tinder of course, where girls have infinite choices and are operating almost entirely based off of looks.

Anyway, here is a great illustration of why Tinder will destroy you if you're trying to learn Seduction and are anything short of a model. If you haven't used it as an average guy, it's a huge exercise in frustration, inferiority, and feeling like you have no value. Heed my warning, all novices. Tinder is a rough place for us.

joshsway · 2014-09-30T18:24:07+00:00

Don't hate the game... Tinder and all forms of online dating are great ways to supplement your sex, dating, and relationship life.. and can even be exclusively depended on if you want.

payoman · 2014-10-01T16:31:18+00:00

Do you cold approach?

Being a salesman and pickup student, I have done hundreds of cold approaches. I have also done Dating sites/Tinder.

In sales, I have made hundreds of cold calls and cold in-person meetings with prospective clients.

The difference between a cold phone call and a cold in person meeting (in terms of closing a deal) is about a 5 times improvement in results on average, in favour of in person VS phone call.

My point is that although Tinder is more convenient than cold approach, your ability to sell yourself is limited to your pictures and profile. Similar to how a phone call is just your voice. You cannot persuade beyond your looks/writing ability.

Dating IS sales. You are selling yourself. If all your prospective buyers can go on is looks, then thats the marketing mediums fault(Tinder), not your products fault(You). You can always make your product more attractive when you have the ability to show off more features (voice, personality, conversation, confidence etc).

eacrataes · 2014-10-01T18:05:47+00:00

Are you not swiping right on every woman? You should be.

Title	Why Tinder is terrible for inner game, seduction, and remaining mentally sound
Author	weezywayne
Upvotes	0
Comments	13
Date	September 30, 2014 6:08 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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