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Osafune2 · 2014-10-22T03:46:35+00:00

If you can handle it, escalate. It's tricky though, being the "other guy."

No girl who is satisfied will cheat, but a lot of the time you become enough of a distraction for them to still stay in their relationship without working to actually address the problems in it, so in one sense you're not letting them actualy grow as a person and do the right thing.

Also, they never leave their bf for you and even if they did the trust is gone. So don't you ever catch feelings for them unless you want a world of hurt. It can be frustrating, because you fucking KNOW she isn't happy, but for whatever reason they won't leave.

I was seeing a girl who lived with her bf of 10 years, she was bored as shit and resented the fact she had never been able to have the single life and sleep around she just started doing it with me. She was having her cake and eating it; the fun and excitement of me and the stability of a wealthy bf who worked away a lot.

I broke it off with her because she was a cool girl and I started to like her despite everything. I knew she wouldn't leave him and I told her that if she was going to stay with this guy then at least try and work on the relationship and learn some respect. She fucking cried over me calling it off, but she's still with this poor sap!

You will be amazed at how far girls with boyfriends will go. A lot of the time men will physically cheat, regret it and leave it at that. But women are the ones who go in for affairs and simultaneous emotional and physical cheating for long periods. Obviously some men do too, but it a seems more common for women.

DaygameCoach · 2014-10-22T01:48:42+00:00

You are saying you don't wan't them to cheat on their men...so, what (and why) are you asking us? If you aren't going to mess with them...just don't escalate...just ignore the flirting.

pizzapiemia · 2014-10-22T05:24:49+00:00

if a girl going to cheat, she is going to cheat regardless if it's you or not. I try not to condone rack jacking because there's plenty of fish in the sea, however i am guilty of doing it. Do what you want, that's what i would ahve done. ANd if you are nails enough go for a threesome with them two lol

recyclablebantha · 2014-10-22T12:12:54+00:00

.....they both have boyfriends...... I'm actually confused with what to do.

It's only as confusing as you choose to make it. What do you ultimately want out of your dating life? Something serious? Something casual?

I'm sort of a big asshole in the sense that I don't even make the effort to talk to girls that I don't even find attractive....

That doesn't make you an asshole.

So you can only see women as either girls you want to be involved with, or girls you don't want anything to do with? There's a rather broad range of experiences out there that you're forbidding yourself.

I can't really say exactly how happy these girls are with their boyfriends

Irrelevant. More relevant is what you want. Sort that out before you try to sort through anyone else's mess.

and I wouldn't want to use them to cheat on their boyfriends because that's a serious asshole move but I mean it's pretty clear that they're both into me, playful names, always messaging me on whatsapp etc, always looking at me in class blabla but I don't know what i should actually do.

You don't want them to cheat. So what's the confusion? You can't make them break up and you're pretty clear that you don't want to be instigating a situation where they cheat.

Sounds like the issue is that you like the attention they're giving you and want to figure out an angle to escalate here. There doesn't appear to be one unless one of them decide on her own, to break up and become single again.

jeanisss · 2014-10-22T01:42:43+00:00

Physically escalate. If they share the physical escalation back, then ask em out. Just because she's in a relationship doesn't mean she's satisfied with it. If she is, she will let you know.

TackleMeElmo · 2014-10-22T12:58:35+00:00

I don't condone cheating, but I don't have any problems trying to hook a number and maybe hang out with a girl in a relationship. If their relationship is healthily built on trust and they are true to it, hanging out with new people (opposite sex included) shouldn't be an issue.

LaRochefoucauld · 2014-10-22T17:17:42+00:00

here's the thing, cheaters and lappers will cheat on you. and short term, more trouble than they are worth. you are one of two escape plans they have.

so date their friends.

joshsway · 2014-10-22T17:54:23+00:00

https://www.joshsway.com/articles/view/if-she-says-she-has-a-boyfriend-move-on

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