I immediately kept moving and started dancing again. The HOTTEST girl in the bar, HB10 and that's not even a deserving number for this angel, noticed me breakin it down. She was giving me IOIs by noticing me and smiling while I was dancing. She was with 2 other model-like HB10s... The fact that I got an IOI from this girl in New Brunswick, was already phasing for me. But fuck that shit! I approached her immediately!

As soon as I approached her to dance, she kinda started to move with her girlfriends away from me...

Her and her girlfriends would pass me maybe like a total of 5-7 times in the whole night, going from the back to the front of the bar. I had not seen them with any guy all night. I hadn't even seen a single guy approach them! It was unbelievable. They definately looked like the type that were so hot, normal guys would just likely be too intimidated to approach. They gave me IOIs like that a lot in the night, but nothing ever developed...

I finally decided to stop dancing my way in, and try to approach. I found the 3 of them in the middle of the bar getting drinks.

There were HB10 blond (who originally gave me the IOI), her Dark Haired HB10 (who had a slight bitch face on all night), and her Asian HB10... They were all smoking HAWT.

I position myself nearby them, and I coicidentally had some guys nearby them that knew me already from all the social proof I was building. I decided to demonstrate to them that I have social proof before approaching. I chit chatted these guys a little, then immediately jumped in there. Except, I didn't really have anything to say. There were 3 hot intimidating girls there, who had already once rejected me...

I sorta just hung out, and bobbed my head a little, until the Asian noticed me. I threw her value, she responded positively in return. I grab her hand and spin her around. She enjoyed it, but then it died almost immediately. It didn't feel natural and fun to me, it felt more like it was going against the current of the flow of energy... Perhaps I should've just walked up and said "Hi, I'm Alex."

So that died pretty quick, and I had decided, "Okay, they aren't interested then... Or at least "I don't know" what they are, but it's not looking good."

I went back up to the stage and continued dancing and bringing the party.

There were many groups of girlfriends and I tried to get in there... A lot of girls were just ignoring me or giving creeper looks to their friends about me, but it wasn't as bad as before. I had gone back into my head and said, "Am I just too old for this bar or something!?"

One girl I approached, danced a little, asked her a few basic interview questions, and tried dancing with her. She let go of my hand quickly... I took that as a rejection and kept moving.

Lastly, I approached this really cute black girl HB8. Except this time, I decided to get up in her grill.

I started throwing value at her earlier in the night, make small chit chat, small comments on her song choices and her cool dreads.

I saw her standing against the wall with her girlfriend. I approached with just "Hey". She was responding positively, and I kept playing it cool, like everything I'm doing is completely cool.

So I stayed in there. I did my palm reading game again and ended up kissing her cheek.

I flirted with her and exchanged value. Sometimes I threw qualifiers to her like "I hope you smoke weed, cause I love dat shit all day everyday!" And "I hope you can dance cause I break it down!"

She responded well to me for the most part. At one point she went to go sing a song with her 2 girlfriends. One of her friends liked me, while the other acted like I'm some stranger that doesn't belong there...

I followed them to the dance floor and gave value while they were singing. I didn't let anything phase me. After she was done singing, I got back in there immediately, flirting with her, trying to isolate and escalate. I didn't try dancing with her. I wanted to win with words.

I couldn't see myself escalating in front of her friend, and I tried isolating her. I start talking about how I don't drink too much and she tells me, "I'm having trouble hearing you. Let's get a beer"

I agreed, we goto the bar. While going to the bar, I made sure to lead, holding her hand. When we got there, I had my arm around her all the time. I tried kissing her on the lips again, because her friend was gone. I got close, but still only on the cheek when she kinda showed she didn't want it yet.

I bought her the beer, tipped the bartender like a dollar, and we went back over to her friend but were still talking amongst ourselves. I admitted defeat in that I didn't think I could close her that night, so I went for her number.

A: so give me your number so i can see you again sometime.

She said okay, put her number in my phone. When I talked to her up against the wall, I had my left arm sorta around/behind her and my right hand on her lap and playing with her hands.

She put her number in and saved it.

I immediately tried to start setting up the date.

A: so let's plan out our first date.

B: this is our first date?

A: yes, technically this is our first date. Let's plan out the next one.

She laughed.

A: when are you free?

She didn't answer. She just looked kinda confused as if looking for her gf or something, maybe it was awkward for her. Idk.

I bounced out of this set. I mingled with other girls, but no one else really responded past a glance, ignoring me, or looking at me and showing no reaction at all...

There were a lot of cute girls, and I didn't understand why none of them were attracted to me. I observed all of them, and I found that a majority of them were towards the end of the night making out with some guys. I paid close attentiontion to their game as well as if they were gaming at all... My conclusion was that not a single couple that were making out, had really met that night. Or at least, if they did meet that night, that the kissing wasn't as passionate and crazy as it is when I do it... Something about the heat of the moment makes kissing strangers hot and exciting. These couples were kissing almost romantically...

Later on one of the black dudes that loved me approached me and said "where are all the girls at man!? All these girls have boyfriends!"

I thought about that. Maybe they were right. Maybe they got the "I have a boyfriend" excuse all night. Maybe I'll never know...

The bar had closed and on her way out, the black girl said bye to me.

I texted her soon after saying "see ya lata sexaaaay!" With a funny video recorded of me and my friend dancing about a month ago... Just to lighten the mood, throw value. She responded with, "I can't see what you sent me bc my phone sucks, what was it?"

I just explained very briefly what it was. And that's basically where I'm at right now.

Looking back on the night, and how my lack of self belief is truly the only thing stoping me, then I must truly be unstoppable with just "believing in myself"... That I can do it potentially, even today... I just have to change the way I think and approach women.

Things I did well

  • I approached most women I found attractive, even Angels...

  • I spoke well for the most part

  • I stayed with it always, didn't fully give in to my Ego

  • I brought the party

  • got a real number and a response

  • almost kissed 2 different girls

  • didn't go home and cry, stayed till the end

  • had fun

  • made friends

  • built social proof

  • built some minor pre-selection

  • was direct with women, didn't flinch as much

things I did poorly

  • didn't escalate enough and properly

  • went back to those mental movies

  • was slightly outcome dependent

  • didn't talk to enough women

  • got defeated at some parts

things I want to improve on

  • believing in myself

  • ignoring my mental movies and recognizing them as wrong and incorrect on all levels

  • not giving a shit

  • isolating more

  • going for the number/kiss more smoothly without flinching, knowing that they "want it"

  • speaking slower