What is confidence?

seducer4real · 2015-02-12T09:59:03+00:00

In my opinion, a confident man is someone who is happy without girls. Why? Because he is always following his passion and working on improving himself, that is his number 1 priority, girls are a bonus to him. Girls love guys that are passionate, so become the best at what you do. This does not mean that you do not talk to girls, no. Youre still improving yourself, youre still spending months on months honing your social interactions, practicing as much as you can, becoming the best you can be. And you do all of this, WITHOUT telling anyone. Never tell anyone about this. Because lets say your mate catches you with a HB, and he asks how you got her and you tell him "on ive been practicing for the past year". You know what he will think? He will think to himself "oh i couldve done that as well if i practiced for a year", whilst oblivious to the will power require to actually endure such a task. Bragging always has the opposite effect, let the actions speak for themselves. Somebody asks you how youre so good at programming software? You tell them "oh its nothing". Whilst inside your head youre like " FUCK YEAH, i practiced years for this shit". The point here is to make your works look EFFORTLESS. The more effortless it looks , the more powerful.

youngpua · 2015-02-12T02:27:23+00:00

You can only be confident if you're the judge of yourself. Not allowing society or hot girls be the judge of you. You should react and accept feedback from both of those things. But do not let them be the deciders of how great a guy you are. It has to be you that in the end evaluates and decides that.

secondpua · 2015-02-12T02:40:41+00:00

Confidence is positive reference experiences. The more you do something, the more you will feel comfortable doing it.

You can't show confidence by saying "look at me I'm confident" because that shows a lack of confidence and can come off as arrogant and cocky, as you said. Go look at a famous idol who you consider to be confident and watch interviews with them and see how they act. Do they act all "look at me, look at me" or do they act like "I know I can do this and it doesn't matter if you think otherwise".

rmbarnes · 2015-02-12T06:42:37+00:00

Confidence is the expectation of success.

JessePinkman88 · 2015-02-12T13:21:01+00:00

To freely admit who you are, your insecurities, fears, goals, desires. If you accept who you are, you don't need anyone else's approval, therefore you're confident. It's nothing to do with girls, careers, money or friends, these are just circumstances where lack of confidence causes issues.

Big_TX · 2015-02-12T02:02:12+00:00

The top post of all time is On confidence but I think it is totally wrong.

I Thi j the power of now is about self esteme based confidence. I have never read it.

I hope ther people will give you better answers. I'd say a huge part of it is being confortable and not submissive. You don't have to assert your dominance to be a confident. Yah. I think it is feeling you have a right to speak, take up space, be there + being confortable + expecting thing to work out/you be able to figur them out + saying what you think + being out come independent. + not being submissive

This is off the top of my head. I have never given it much thought. It's sorts a vibe/attitude/feeling. Watch movies with confident people. Maybe you will better under stand it.

Title	What is confidence?
Author	crwlng
Upvotes	6
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Date	February 12, 2015 1:25 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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