New to RP. Got with a girl while on holidays, now she's getting really emotional and it's kind of messing me up.

cero · 2014-01-04T12:07:57+00:00

You can't protect her from her emotions, and you're not obligated to do so, not in this situation.

You can acknowledge her sadness and indicate that you'd prefer it was different but ultimately you can't change the situation.

Accept that as-is and move on. Rip the band-aid off quickly.

steadymotion · 2014-01-04T20:20:01+00:00

Disregard her feelings. Go about your life. If/When you want to bang her again just send her a text with "I'm coming over." or something direct like that, as if you were just on a break from each other but now the action will resume.

Drama doesn't exist in your world. When you are with a girl, everything is simple, to the point, leading towards sex (or whatever other activity you want to be doing with her), and when you aren't with her, you are just living your life, business as usual.

MightySurly · 2014-01-04T20:12:53+00:00

CROCODILE TEARS.

Ancient Egyptians believed crocodiles would cry to lure victims in before they ate them alive.

This woman is doing the exact same thing. She doesn't have a strong connection to you, she barely even knows you. She is crying to get you to come back to reassure herself.

Ultimately she decides who she fucks. Remember OP you did not use her for sex. She used use for an emotional boost.
What she didn't realize is that you're not a condiment and you can't be picked up and put back down at will.

scottishredpill · 2014-01-04T18:00:05+00:00

Next her. Spin more plates.

classicjimmy · 2014-01-04T17:45:22+00:00

It doesn't really matter what you do, you've just got to be careful to not do a bunch of key things.

Don't let it get to you. You can't let her throw you off. You were perfectly fine before her, you're going to be fine without her. Let her miss you all you want, but you don't need to miss her back. Keep your frame strong. Even if you don't have any other options (newbies to TRP, we've all been there, it's tough starting out) act like you do. Don't dote on this one chick or let her in your head
Don't "acknowledge" it and cave. At the end of the day, this is just another shit test. Either agree and amplify or dismiss it and change the subject. If you respond to the "I miss you" text with an "I know babe, I miss you too, I'll be back soon", all is lost. Her panties are drier than the desert.

At the end of the day, you are the prize. You may be leaving her, but you need to act like (without saying it explicitly) that you have 8 other girls begging for your attention where you're going. Don't be afraid to leave girls in the past. In my experience, they tend to come crawling back when you return more often than not.

Reddit_SLC · 2014-01-05T08:10:23+00:00

What are you protecting her from by "helping her not feel so shitty"? Nothing. You're being real. Keep it up

abcd_z · 2014-01-05T12:11:11+00:00

(we benged meny time)

I, uh, I don't think that's what you meant.

tr8 · 2014-01-04T18:12:49+00:00

/u/scottishredpill is not wrong. However, many a bang can be had with the long game. So you should empathise with her and make her feel better, just maintain frame. Here are some suggestions.

"I know. I couldn't live without me." This and its variations done right will make her laugh.
"This was one hot summer." You can actually do a little of "remember when we..." Resist the urge to overplay it.
Get her to send nudes. Start by having her try on swimming suits for the next year.
Have skype "sex" with her.

Keep it going on the back burner like that. You never know.

Title	New to RP. Got with a girl while on holidays, now she's getting really emotional and it's kind of messing me up.
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Upvotes	7
Comments	13
Date	January 4, 2014 11:34 AM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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