Losing girls because I live so far away

chadbrochillout · 2015-05-12T13:39:07+00:00

Move to Toronto?

DaygameCoach · 2015-05-12T13:54:41+00:00

You could also close at their place. or public rest rooms. Or move closer (never mind, you responded to that one). Or look harder for talent in your city (internet dating might help or college campuses). Or find cheaper hotels or rent a cheap room monthly. Please don't respond with why you can't do these things...they are just suggestions. :)

Cusiine, Daygamer.net

SexlessNights · 2015-05-12T13:33:50+00:00

Why not continue with the hotel room idea. Just find one that's a little further out and cheaper. Say 20 Mins vs 1hr.

2015-05-12T16:47:13+00:00

30k people isn't bad. I live right outside a city of 20k with a couple small colleges nearby. Still under 30k population wise and no issues.

thekidbass · 2015-05-12T17:52:55+00:00

It may be because I'm younger (18 turning 19) but I've had a majority of my dates consist of the girl driving or taking a train for about 45 minutes to an hour to come see me, and then another 45-1 hour on the way back. I know how you feel, its difficult because you feel very limited. The girls for me really don't seem to mind, and I do live in NYC where trains are an actual thing that people come across some point in their lives. My suggestion to you would be step back from seduction and work on exactly how you want to pursue things. Maybe your location isn't cutting it out FOR YOU because of what you want from your life. Don't let seduction be the reason you move out or spend money on things that are ephemeral.

DrewCruise · 2015-05-12T20:20:53+00:00

I can only tell you what the coach told me:

You have to participate in your own rescue

I think you already know what you need to do to succeed, but you don't want to do it.

don't want to get a rep here

This is the story you tell yourself to sabotage your own success. In reality nobody gives that much of sh!t and if they do...F them. I don't give a damn what anyone thinks of me or my "rep". In my city, I move through it how I want.

I tell them we have to take the train they put the guards up

That's just logistics, think of it from their point of view. If a girl is DTF for a one night stand, where do you think they want to wake up? It's like you're asking these girls to get in your white van and take them out into the country [never to be seen again?]. Of course, their guard goes up because, they don't feel safe going that far from home with a guy they've just met.

I'm sure a girl will be willing to get on a train ride with you, but that will only come after you do the traditional dating ritual (i.e. 2 to 4 traditional dates) to give her enough time to feel comfort and trust with you to travel that far.

honestly the talent is in Toronto

Are you not talented? You need to come up with a plan to get there. Do your home work and take some risks. What is your situation? Living with your parents? Going to university? Got a job already?

It may be time to look at what you are doing and make a change? Are you happy with your job? Do you have skills that you can apply for better jobs in the city? What are your goals? Your purpose?

I don't want to seem harsh. But years ago, I went through the same thing. I came from a small town. It was not fun and I was unhappy there. So I worked hard, put myself through college, and got better paying jobs over time. Now, I live in a metropolitan city and I take a short drive downtown nights and weekends at my leisure.

Break down your walls of disbelief and push yourself. You will be rewarded for it!

DrSleeper · 2015-05-12T17:44:56+00:00

How about never minding same days? If a girl is dating you for a bit she won't mind visiting your small town for a bit or taking you the her own place..

dfsw · 2015-05-12T16:29:22+00:00

Get yourself a cheap studio apartment as a weekend place there.

Thepimpandthepriest · 2015-05-12T18:33:30+00:00

I have no idea what you're trying to achieve with this post.

Title	Losing girls because I live so far away
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Upvotes	22
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Date	May 12, 2015 1:09 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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