How does self depreciating humor affect your social appearance?

KyleLikesFries · 2015-06-26T20:53:00+00:00

I'm a firm believer in if you can't laugh at yourself you can't laugh at anyone. With that being said if you make nothing but those self depreciating jokes then you will look like your not confident. Just try and hold back a little but don't stop completely

folderol · 2015-06-26T21:02:36+00:00

The ability to laugh at myself has endeared me to certain people. I don't do it constantly but every once in a while when the timing is perfect and I just can't pass it up I go for it and get lots of laughs. I've even laughed at myself while playing guitar before and had people say it was cool that I could laugh at my mistakes and just keep going. As long as you aren't constantly shitting on yourself I think it's fine.

tectonic9 · 2015-06-26T21:16:14+00:00

As with so much, this is about subtext. Are you using self-deprecation because you feel you are inadequate, and seek to identify with others through disparaging yourself, or preempt others' imagined criticisms by saying them first? That's obvious, toxic, and unattractive.

Do you occasionally self-deprecate because you have overcome the defensiveness of your ego such that it is not a threat to acknowledge personal faults (like everyone else, you're human and will have weaknesses and mistakes and that's ok)? Well that can be very attractive, but it looks quite different from the former.

aaron_is_here · 2015-06-26T20:28:54+00:00

I do the same exact thing and I'd like to hear other people's input and suggestions.

Cutthroat_Croissant · 2015-06-27T03:51:33+00:00

there is a fine line between self depreciating humor and making a complete ass of yourself. You have to find that line and apply it only where it seems relevant or okay and so you wont put a big spotlight over your head saying, "hey everyone look at me." otherwise making a joke of yourself can be a good thing and can make others more comfortable around you but you have to be careful that you don't make people take you less seriously.

redditisawesomeinla · 2015-06-27T04:02:06+00:00

If you only do it once in a while as you've mentioned it's a good thing - it shows you can laugh at yourself and don't take yourself too seriously.

Of course, doing it too often wouldn't be good as people will think you're too hard on yourself and might have self-esteem issues.

Pathetic_Aesthetic · 2015-06-27T05:52:24+00:00

It depends. It's a good trait to laugh at yourself, just as long as you don't make yourself look depressing or pathetic at the expense of yourself. As long as you use self deprecating humor lightly, and not serious in a light way.

8Drag · 2015-06-27T05:56:43+00:00

self-depreciating humor goes wrong when:

everyone in the club has to act like they're somebody, the frat dude is a frat dude, hot bitchy girls are hot bitchy girls. when you use self-depreciating humor for your own gain, you use it to say: oh i'm really not that good, i'm really no one, just little old me.

this_weirdo_chick · 2015-06-27T01:12:28+00:00

If you put yourself down, others will believe you.

Title	How does self depreciating humor affect your social appearance?
Author	Lndbrghwrstlr
Upvotes	27
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Date	June 26, 2015 8:17 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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