Hi Seddit,

So here's my situation: I'm a 28 year old guy. I've been in two long-term relationships in my life. They're very far and few between. And I've had a few very short things. So I know I'm not a goblin--I CAN attract women.

I can say with confidence I am NOT socially awkward. I'm not new at seduction concepts, either. I can approach strangers, have people laughing, vibe great most of the time.

But I suffer from a lot of painful rejections on first dates. The situation is I get asked out frequently because I seem to be very photogenic. So, quite simply, women find me online.

Tonight was especially brutal. This girl, very beautiful, wants to meet me. At this point I am beginning to feel a bit calloused, but I decide to do it anyway.

So we meet and discover we have a ton in common. We are joking and laughing almost the whole night. I knew I would be a total idiot if I didn't make any moves. So I waited as we were wrapping things up. I leaned forward to kiss her and got the MASSIVE "cheek treatment".

She wanted to tell me "Why" but she was caught in that "I don't want to be mean" dilemma. So, she couldn't finish her sentence. It was just "Listen, I... uhh...I...I had fun tonight. Take care."

Well my problem is that this has happened dozens of more times.

The reason is that, I am convinced, it's how I look. You see, I am photogenic on pictures, but in reality I am rather short to average height (5'9), but far worse-- I am skinny.

Girls just aren't attracted to me. The same way as a guy, if a chick is overweight we feel repulsed. Same thing, except for me I am weak looking. Not masculine.

I've tried things like cutting off my hair, growing facial hair, etc. No luck. It just increases the amount of gay dudes who hit on me.

So the biggest problem with this is that I am beginning to get depression and body image related issues. I am considering devoting the rest of my life to something like body building to compensate, but a voice in the back of my mind is telling me that might not be healthy.

I'm also a writer, too. And I am traveling around the world. A woman familiar with my work (and very beautiful) has been talking to me on Facebook lately. She's from Greece, where I am heading to next. She's overtly interested in me sexually, I suppose spurred by the fact she's a "fan". But based on countless bad experiences, I feel I am certain once she sees me, she won't like me. I know I've really gone crazy because I am considering telling her: "If you meet me, you are going to be disappointed. I don't think we should meet." If it becomes another situation like all the others I feel it's going to send me on a depressed spiral, and I don't want to risk that.

So that's my story. I guess here's the TL;DR: I get frequent attention by girls online, I think they are disappointed because I am skinny and not masculine, I hit everything right conversationally, but I get hard rejections, and these are making me want to stop dating altogether / leading to depression and body image problems.