Ok, this is a throw-away, but I'll monitor it as much as possible for answers.
Just found out that my girlfriend lied about multiple sex partners during a breakup. We were still fucking while I was dating/fucking another girl. I was 100% honest when she asked me if I was due to the mutual understanding that we're both trying to be as safe as possible. Well, back in January I found out that she had lied about sleeping with someone. It didn't make sense that she hadn't, at lease from me knowing that she had hung out with at least 2 different guys. Alas, I ignored it on blind faith that honesty was a priority in our relationship.
We've had our ups and downs but despite my ability to get other girls easily, I've always liked her. The traits that I look for are all in her, and while I don't believe in being walked on, I do believe in giving a relationship it's fair shot (what's the point of getting into it in the first place?)
Anway, so one night while I'm here in the new city that I moved to for work, I asked her (she's still back home, was gonna move with me but got offered a management position at her job and wanted to take it) if she was telling me the whole truth. Found out she was lying, a 4 hour argument ensued, and finally admitted by trickling the truth out of this long conversation that
- She got dick pics from an ex
- She kissed a guy
- Guy she kissed she fucked
- she was super drunk when it happened
Now, I know this is all bullshit, and I know that there's more that she's not telling me. So I hang up the phone and try to salvage what little sleep I can get at 6:20am. The next day i goto work, then upon arriving home I see she's waiting at my house here in the new city (4 hours away). She's crying, distraught, usual chick shit, and then we talk. Needless to say I tried my best to let it go, and she was like,"I'm so sorry, blah blah blah, iw as just scared when i lied because I didn't want you to think less of me. I KNEW you were fucking someone else but I didn't wanna let you know that I had fucked someone," Blah blah blah.
So then she suggests she move down here. And ultimately, I wanted to start a true family and marry this woman.
Fast forward, more lies and more lies about the same shit and then I find out she fucked ANOTHER guy, then kissed another as well.
SO as i type this I'm getting pissed, because I don't know what to do. Should I drop her for the lies or is it reasonable for women to continuously lie about bullshit like this?
TL/DR - Girlfriend lied multiple times about what went on during breakup (sex with other guys), moved girlfriend out of state where I have a new job, she has a son (4 years) and doesn't have a job. I'm having trouble with the lies themselves, not the actions (during breakup). Help.
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