I don't drink or like clubs. Any ideas of other social venues?

angryadult · 2014-04-25T23:42:15+00:00

So I'm guessing you're about my age, somewhere in your early-mid 30s.

Clubs and bars can suck. I try to never visit a club, ever. I like craft-quality bars (where they have aged cocktails and esoteric spirits, etc). They're more akin to a coffee house, but with alcohol. If a woman is enjoying that, her and I will get along just fine.

Besides that, just start doing shit. Join a class for something. Sign up for 5k runs. Get a dog and take it to the dog park regularly. Take some fluff "life" classes (those 1-day affairs) at the local community college. Making sushi, basics of carpentry, basics of metal working, etc. Learn your wines and take part in a wine blending class or a wine making class. Go on hikes. Find a social group that goes on hikes together. There are, surprisingly, a lot of groups like this. Get with a trail running group. Trail running is a way to make running not miserable and shitty.

The long and short of it is to get yourself out there in betterment or athletic activities. Single women flock to these athletic social groups, as they're a fantastic way for them to meet guys who are fit. I have multiple female friends who met their husbands this way. It's the worst secret ever, but because physical fitness is part of the core activity, most fatties and cranky bitches (men and women, in this context) stay far away.

W_O_M_B_A_T · 2014-04-25T23:51:05+00:00

Anywhere you see a woman that's attractive to you, approach and open her. Don't give any fucks about whether she's single or not. Doesn't matter where you are or what you're doing.

Grocery stores, bookstores, malls, public parks, walking down the street, movie theaters, etc. Bars are actually one of the more difficult places to approach and open women, because there are tons and tons of single thirsty guys around giving them attention. This bumps up their perceived SMV and even the ugly drunk ones will be shit testing you and being bitchy. You need a fair amount of "social proof" to succeed in a bar.

CrimsonCapsule · 2014-04-25T21:03:48+00:00

Brush up on your day game. Maybe a little online stuff too.

newpopehere1 · 2014-04-25T20:40:53+00:00

Go to dance classes, parks, coffee houses, join a non-profit, become an instructor (scuba, ski diving etc.), try to be social etc. Also wear suits, women love men who wear suits.

norwegian_92 · 2014-04-26T01:10:15+00:00

How old are you, is your SMV high?

The gym could be a GREAT place to meet hot chicks.

Title	I don't drink or like clubs. Any ideas of other social venues?
Author	shua2189
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Comments	10
Date	April 25, 2014 7:23 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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