How to deal with what I suspect is fake flirting?

trpRX · 2014-05-01T16:50:02+00:00

Preface: I haven't ever had a girlfriend, and I have no interest in one, until I'm fully confident in being able to assert myself constantly in the wake of shit-tests etc.

Dont make excuses... the best way to learn to handle woman, is to handle woman

next time she flirts, ask her when she is taking you out....

"you cant seem to keep your hands off me, when are you taking me out?"

she will either take you out, or make excuses.. either way you will know what's up.

Stayinghereforreal · 2014-05-01T17:17:30+00:00

Age?

I ask because you sound young, and it reminds me of my mid-teens, which was a point where my peers suddenly had a much more pronounced interest in me.

The first few times gals are suddenly and obviously forward in giving you unsolicited indications of interest, it feels weird, because it is so .... new.

Part of SMV going up is that starts to happen, where before it did not. Guys who start lifting a lot will experience something similar sometimes, as gals at parties and bars start rubbing their hands on arms and pecs. They call it "swolesting" by gals.

To figure out if they are teasing or actually interested, escalate. /u/trpRX is right. You just make it plain that you are now interested in moving this to the next step in starting a physical encounter: a date.

aaron_the_just · 2014-05-02T05:24:48+00:00

Here's all that's happened: you created a frame of mine where you ignore women because you know right now they aren't worth your time. This girl was flirting with you with no serious intentions. Since you consistently ignored her, now she has some amount of genuine interest in you due to your demonstration of high value.

Here's the bad news: it won't help you at all until you know that you actually ARE high value. You don't think you have enough attractiveness or game or frame to be able to handle girls, so if anything with this girl goes beyond flirting, you're up shit creek without a paddle.

A man needs a lot more game in his toolbox than just ignoring girls. But it's a good start.

mikelovesvegas · 2014-05-01T17:27:45+00:00

I suspect she is just trying to determine if you're gay.

RPSavant · 2014-05-01T20:30:40+00:00

my guess is you are here because you want us to go "ohhh you goooo boooooyyy!!! she was totally flirting with you!"

I think you should focus on your high school studies and make sure you get good grades.

Talk to your counselor and make sure you have a good university picked out before your senior year. But most importantly, enjoy your freshman year. It is one of the best years!

Pushnikov · 2014-05-02T13:13:57+00:00

What i'm reading makes no sense at all.

She feels your abs but you're low Smv. Blah blah blah.

I think you have a self image issue and should get yourself a reality check. You have this idea of what you should be and you aren't accepting who you are for yourself. You're setting yourself up for failure. You should be breathing and practicing your mental challenges as much as your physical ones.

Girls aren't going to care how cute you are if you are a socially awkward goofball like you are coming off. You should be practicing agree and amplify, and other social tools so that your mind keeps up with your body. She is the perfect experiment for you and you are wasting it on some egocentric pity party.

Title	How to deal with what I suspect is fake flirting?
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Date	May 1, 2014 4:39 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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