My girlfriend is what you'd call a 'unicorn'. But it's getting boring now, and i'm considering leaving her. I don't know if this is a huge mistake.

seever · 2014-05-17T21:19:47+00:00

Wow the tables have turned. that's how girls see betas. boring and always willing to give.

my advice for is do what makes you happy. tell her you need to see other people, need some space. but don't brake her heart. don't do the same shit our crushes did to us.

jeezydasnowman · 2014-05-17T22:30:27+00:00

This will be downvoted to oblivion, but I'm going to say it. Learn about the concept of delayed gratification. Human materialism knows no bounds; you will never be satisfied no matter what you have. Man up, accept the truth, and don't ever bring it up, even if your relationship takes a turn for the worse.

tl;dr You don't know what you have til its gone.

iKill_eu · 2014-05-17T21:36:03+00:00

What? If anything you've got the opposite of oneitis. You've got the wanderlust, kiddo.

I've been in similar situations before. Guess it's true - if we really do get what we want, we don't know what to do with it.

Ask yourself what you really want, and know that if you pass her up, you're no better than the carousel sluts skipping on the betas in high school. You gotta be better than that - if a chick is worth it, work within the relationship to make it better.

As long as you don't get the BP blues, you're good.

throwwhatthere · 2014-05-18T03:12:29+00:00

Okay: So you're trying to say she's perfect, and you're annoyed that there's no more challenge.

My answer: Get some other FUCKING challenges. You're doing life wrong if the END goal is the woman. A woman is an accouterment to a man with a mission, not the mission itself. She is at most a means to an end.

You've found a great woman to be at your side for your mission. That's great.

I think you've made the mistake of making the woman the mission, which is the essence of BP behavior. Focus on becoming an awesome successful man and enjoy having a good woman at your side.

drqxx · 2014-05-17T22:15:37+00:00

How many girls have you been with and how old are you?

stillnoturday · 2014-05-17T22:53:00+00:00

I'm going venture guess's since I don't have complete information.

1) You haven't been with a lot of girls I'm going to say 3 maybe.

2) She isn't that good in bed, yea she does whatever but even that gets boring if they aren't into it and just doing it to make you happy

3) I do believe that you don't find her challenging which gets boring, I also believe you go without her for a couple of weeks see where you stand then.

Honestly I think you like this girl you might even love her, but I think you see all these green pastures and wonder. If that is what you want man you know what you have to do, dont cheat on her thats a bitch move. Tell her whats up and go do your thing.

highstats · 2014-05-18T17:07:24+00:00

No you do not have oneitis. You have stupiditis.

You want excitement? Grow the fuck up. Find challenges to thrill you. Go and pursue a career where everyone puts you down but you learn to laugh at it and perform at extraordinary levels. Go network and finish a degree. Become an entrepreneur. Make something out of yourself. Do whatever, but do something into which you can pour your energy to be a man worthy of her.

Your problem is that you are too young and have few life challenges to wound you seriously yet. You have not had the critical battle where you fight for your identity. And without enough challenges, your mind invents challenges to fill the vacuum. It's what many women do when they are not haaaaapppyyyy. Because it has come too easily for you to keep a quality woman, you come to loathe her; your boredom is all about you and not about her. If you had won and scraped your way from rock bottom and built the foundation of yourself, you would say "I earned this shit by conquest and my woman will be by my side because I am the best for her in my excellence and constancy of performance".

Do the work. Build the foundation of yourself. Go lift. Go put yourself into challenging situations. Go lead men into battle. Go find out what it's like to take a tremendous risk where you can lose everything, only to have it pay off. Or fail drastically.

Being in between jobs and being almost broke is a good start. Do more. Grow more. Become a man.

frazzleddd · 2014-05-18T02:16:43+00:00

I'm going to get shit but DONT FUCKING DO IT.

I made this exact mistake and I've been trying to fix my retarded fuckup for awhile now. The grass is always greener and you won't get more. You're going to ride the pussy carousel or whatever and then be sad at 35 when it runs out and you're done and you remember that girl who loved you.

PM me if you want details because I had the exact same situation to the point where its almost creepy

hitokiribattosai28 · 2014-05-17T23:30:40+00:00

You mentioned not having the thrill of the chase anymore. If this girl is supporting you in your life's mission by taking care of you and being very helpful then perhaps you should shift that thrill of the chase to other aspects of your life.

AlphaAsFAQ · 2014-05-17T23:44:40+00:00

I'm going to guess you're about 20 or so. You have traveled a bit but nothing extensive. You were raised in a good home, possibly slightly religious but you don't care much for that stuff. You're smart, understand things quickly, beat challenges easily and are good looking.

You get frustrated seeing other girls as hot or hotter than your girlfriend, knowing you could get them if you wanted; they probably already actively show interest in you. You don't mind when guys hit on your gf as you know for a fact that she will be going home with you at the end of the night.

I've been there and dropped her when I was 23. It was for other reasons but I always saw the grass being greener so felt comfort while the break up happened. It took a while to get back into it as I compared all potential girls to her and no one stacked up; the grass ended up being not as green. It took me a while to properly move on and I still think of her years later. Only now can I see her flaws and know that I made the right decision.

Finding a good one early on is frustrating. I'm going to side with the guys saying break up. When it comes to girls, your thirst for challenge will remain strong for the next decade. You will never stop thinking about her but hopefully will stop wanting her.

PS, I even tried telling her to stop giving sex up for me so easily as I wanted to chase and have it as a challenge to get it. It didn't work, when a girl is that into you they can't stop.

[deleted] · 2014-05-17T23:49:24+00:00

Encourage her to grow as a person or leave and unless she's dumb as hell she'll do it all on her own. If she's dumb she'll just start the process over by meeting her new "Prince Charming" and settling in again.

[deleted] · 2014-05-19T14:10:35+00:00

Let me guess, she's not attractive enough for you or you think you can do better?

Sadiebb · 2014-05-17T21:39:49+00:00

Just be aware that if she's really that great, then as soon as you drop her she'll find someone else.

So there will be no going back. But if you think it's for the best, then it probably is.

highstats · 2014-05-17T21:39:47+00:00

I think you misunderstand the term oneitis. People who have oneitis are irrationally attached to a single person, sitting up nights while pining away for that individual. You are thinking of leaving that person all together, so oneitis does not apply.

As for what you should do, that is your choice. I will tell you this. You are a young guy and you use terms like "TOO GOOD" and "TOO PERFECT." There is no way to know if she is good or perfect because you don't have a plate of women to compare her to. She may become run of mill the moment you start dating other women and employing your TRP skills. It may turn out that she was the cream of the crop. But don't think that you already have "perfection" on your hands.

DKRises · 2014-05-18T00:46:03+00:00

This story reminded me of Scrubs. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z2Oc7Ny5rus

redpillshadow · 2014-05-18T00:55:44+00:00

Our first two years were very rocky with many arguements. But then I found TRP and everything changed. I became the leader and she became my loyal girl.

Male hypergamy?

Your SMV has risen above hers and thus you feel the need to trade up?

deville05 · 2014-05-18T01:47:43+00:00

She sounds like a trustworthy person. You wanna give up trust for a little excitement that you will eventually get bored of too? We say that there are no good women n all that n that finding somone who is good for you is impossible these days. But here we are and now what? Trust me you will have more excitement but all the good shit would go away. I say be calm. Let this phase pass. If after sometime you still feel bored, do what you want. Why dont you create some excitement with her? Or get some side pussy if yr up for it

mordanus · 2014-05-18T04:48:13+00:00

I suggest waiting this out. This could just be a weird phase or your chemicals out of whack in your system. Give it some time and try to see how good you have it instead of trying to fuck your situation up just because. If you still hate having her around after your waiting period then do your own thing. Just don't make a rash decision that will burn this bridge for you.

[deleted] · 2014-05-18T05:57:27+00:00

This is a problem for you because you're making the attention of women/a woman a sole focus in your life.

Start doing some self actualising and be thankful this girl is by your side to let you achieve that.

Rather than worrying about this add in some more hobbies to your life and widen your social groups. The devoted loving girlfriend is not a problem. Also, don't think because you've reached a good place with her that she actually is truly devoted to you. Go gain 50 lbs and say you lost your job. Then you'll be chasing her again just like that.

greycloud24 · 2014-05-18T08:52:23+00:00

are you fucking shitting me? no obviously you shouldn't leave her. if you are having some problem because she isn't a challenge than you are thinking wrong. the problem is that you are not challenged. she shouldn't be a challenge for you, but your life obviously lacks challenge. so here is a challenge. you need to go save up some money and go do something adventurous together, and it needs to be challenging. go to a country where you don't speak the language and climb a mountain, or go white water rafting, or save up and go sky diving. do something that pushes your limits, and bring her with you.

she isn't the challenge. the world is the challenge, and you two are the best team out there to tackle it.

leave a fucking awesome girl. what the fuck do you want in life? life gives you the gold that most people will never find, and you want to throw it away. fuck off.

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TomHicks · 2014-08-29T09:36:16+00:00

Is she good looking? If so, DON'T DUMP HER. Seriously. You'd be an enormous idiot if you do.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-05-18T18:24:50+00:00

Are we sure this is not a chick troll?

The solution is easy. If she is THAT into you then assure her of your undying love. Perhaps even get engaged- on the contingency that YOU, and only you, get to be non-exclusive. Assure her it is just the chase and the sex you are after and that you will love her and be with her forever.

When a chick is totally in 'love' with you the power you have is incredible. Use it.

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YouDislikeMyOpinion · 2014-05-17T20:24:36+00:00

So you're saying it has nothing to do with her looks? Or her outlook on life? Or her drive and ambition? Or her spirit to bring excitement into the relationship?

A card and all is nice, but it doesn't beat a girl who is busting her ass to finish a valuable degree while working on the side and also planning excursions for the both of you while actually succeeding in pushing and supporting you into the upper echelon of society (not just trying or helping, but actually succeeding in the completion of the goal).

Title	My girlfriend is what you'd call a 'unicorn'. But it's getting boring now, and i'm considering leaving her. I don't know if this is a huge mistake.
Author	highstats
Upvotes	17
Comments	58
Date	May 17, 2014 8:06 PM UTC (12 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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