Sadness, self-pity, depression

SecondVariety13 · 2016-05-16T22:53:21+00:00

First of all, even if a woman will sleep with you out of pity, why the hell would you want that?!?

How long has your dry spell been man? I understand that it can get depressing when that happens. I'm particularly susceptible to feelings of worthlessness/depression, "I'll never find someone else" mindset. But that's what you need to understand, it's a mindset. Just because you have these feelings doesn't make them true. You've been laid before so some girls have found you attractive - fact. Based on that, you must not be as ugly as you think and will attract other women at some point - fact.

Self-pity is one of the most unattractive traits a person can have. Nip that shit in the bud. Don't try to get sympathy from woman you're trying to bang. That will turn them off. Really try to get into a positive mindset. When I'm feeling down I honestly usually come on here to read something inspirational. Gets me right back into the mood to go out and attempt having a great night. Exercising puts some people in a good mood (only works occasionally for me). Lastly, practice treating yourself like you would a best friend. Encourage yourself. Mentally contradict these negative feelings you have. Don't be your own worst enemy (we often are). The worst mistake you can make is allowing yourself to remain in this self-deprecating mindset.

TheXXL · 2016-05-18T09:00:58+00:00

Just what are some things to do to get out of it?

Looks aren't that important, at least to an extent, as in how you physically look. being not handsome, only means you need to work harder for the same thing handsome men get by nature. Also, don't rely on female attention, it is only feeding your ego and this doesn't make you better in any way. It only covers up your deep insecurities.

Also what are the worst mistakes you can make?

Putting yourself down. Lowering your own value. Trying to appeal to women by displaying weakness.

I feel like trying to get sympathy from women never helps. They find it contemptible.

Exactly. It "never" works. well, never is not true, it works on some women, but believe me, those women are not what you want.

So, to get around this, you need to find your self worth. Realize that you are more than your shell. True, people only see your shell at first, and then decide if they let you into their lives or not, but you can balance it out by behavior. Behave like a man that is getting all the girls, display confidence in that, and you will have a much higher success rate. People are easy to "manipulate". If you dress like a businessman, people think you are succesful = attractive. If you walk, talk, stand and overall behave confident, people will think you are successful = attractive. The more you are congruent in that, by practice, experience with that, as in, seeing that it works, the more successful you become.

You should also stop the "whining" when communicating with women, it feels to them like they have to take care of you like you were a child, and of course this is not attractive.

Title	Sadness, self-pity, depression
Author	MrCrappy57
Upvotes	0
Comments	8
Date	May 16, 2016 8:19 PM UTC (10 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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