3 Reasons Most Men Have Disappointing Dating Lives (And What to Do Instead)

nerdrageofdoom · 2016-08-12T20:49:50+00:00

You know, some days I just contemplate just learning how to masturbate as best as possible so I don't have to deal with someone else's bullshit, but then boobs....

WolfenEyes · 2016-08-12T17:59:00+00:00

"They Don't Know What They Want"

This is a huge one! It's amazing how many men I've encountered who are clueless about what they want out of women and life in general.

A simple solution for this is to spend some time thinking about what qualities you would prefer in a woman, and then spend some time writing that down.

Qualities I want in a woman: 1. She's caring and has a nurturing attitude. 2. She's comfortable being feminine. 3. She's intelligent, enjoys books and intellectual talk. 4. She has a positive, optimistic demeanor. 5. She lives a healthy lifestyle (exercise, organic food) 6. She's polite and well mannered. 7. She's curious and adventurous. 8. She's creative or artistic. 9. She's well grounded, comfortable with herself. 10. She acts authentically. 11. She has a witty sense of humor. 12. She's comfortable with her sexuality. 13. She's college educated. 14. She is goal oriented. 15. She loves to travel.

I try to look for at least 7 or 8 of the above qualities when I screen women I meet. When you have certain standards that you want women to meet, it puts you more in the "buyer" frame of mind and she has to sell herself to you.

bananayut · 2016-08-13T00:10:14+00:00

I've been on this sub for a while and I've read a few pieces from this author and managed to hold my nose and my lunch and move on without comment.

Nah not this time.

"If you resent what people have in any way, you can never have it. If you resent a man who consistently sleeps with the type of girls you desire, you will never get to his level. You will NEVER date those types of women. It’s the same reason why 99% of the fucking “Occupy Wall Street” protestors will stay poor forever. It’s a mental contradiction that will fuck you up. You can’t become something you resent. Here’s what you should do instead: Respect, love, and admire that which you want."

Thats the reason the "fucking occupy protestors" will remain poor? Because they resent the rich. Really?

Before the dissect that statement let me make a point about the "community". Which is here to of course selflessly help any man who needs to become bater at meeting and dating women.

The community and its generous and loving PUA's do not make their money off of women they seduce. Nor do they get their power high and their ego boost from all the lovely ladies they are surrounded by. They get them, first and foremost from the men who are feel broken inside and desperately need answers from someone, anyone. Their task isn't to just help, like a pharmaceutical companies job isn't to just cure an illness. Their first task and really only concern (as for ANY business) is to create a loyal, paying (and hopefully long term) customer. And the way they do that is to make you feel like SHIT. And to tell you, you are deeply troubled and that they alone have the solution. Because they ARE the solution, that unlike flawed and useless you, they are perfect. And you should look to them and their example whenever help is needed. This has been the primordial scam of mankind. Coming in different formations throughout history and now in its most lame form it comes through men dressed in glitter and sequins telling to wear goggles on your head at a club to get laid.

In other words they're running game. But not on women, but on you. To make you weak. To make you unquestioning. To make you a spineless follower. Oh how exciting you must be women in all your loving subservience. Its the same game the rich have run on the poor for millennia.

Which brings me to my other point. This is the one thing that got me to involve myself in this nonsense. Cause if you fuck around with PUA, needless misogyny is a given but maaaaaaaaaaaaaaaan start fucking with the occupy protestors, you're gettin shat on kid.

Over the last three or four decades Americans have seen their wages drop, debts rise and prices for everything skyrocket. This was all happening at the SAME TIME Americans started worshipping the rich. Acting as they had some fucking God given right to obscene amounts of wealth. That they were the chosen ones and they shouldn't question the social order because if they do then it would guarantee their own exclusion from this level of wealth. Resenting the wealthy did NOT cause many Americans to lose their sense of security and their slip below the poverty line. However a very strong case can be made that admiring the wealthy DID cause all these things to occur. Because in the backdrop of their worship came all the abuses of the neo liberal era and it was hardly ever questioned because people were too busy in their idolatry to notice themselves getting poorer every day. What do you expect? When you put someone on a pedestal it forces them to look down on you.

Also as a member of the American left, I think I should point out at this time a lot of the people I meet who share my politics happen to be fucking loaded. Empty admiration gets you fucking nowhere. However having both feet planted firmly in reality and doing the hard and oftentimes boring/frustrating work of getting good without distorting your vision or depending on shameless idolatry, will on the other hand get you results.

Northwesthip · 2016-08-12T17:36:19+00:00

All good advice. I like this guys writing style.

take_five · 2016-08-12T20:49:45+00:00

Thought the jab at OWS was weak.

Cronuh · 2016-08-13T15:49:21+00:00

That's awesome dude!

kmung · 2016-08-12T18:41:51+00:00

Mad respect dude. Very well written!

2016-08-13T01:47:53+00:00

Good post. I enjoy your posts. I totally agree with the first part. Whe. I started appreciating Game, my game got better. I stated hanging around with guys who were better than me in terms of seduction. And I started absorbing their good attitudes and habits.

Title	3 Reasons Most Men Have Disappointing Dating Lives (And What to Do Instead)
Author	gradcasanova
Upvotes	283
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Date	August 12, 2016 3:33 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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