18 year old Korean guy. I want to change my life

richie0777 · 2016-08-13T20:42:12+00:00

Fellow Asian guy here. Best advice I can give is to start working out regularly. It'll do wonders for your confidence and mental health over time. Girls generally don't go first for the typical Asian guy look, even if you're cute. Obviously I'm generalizing about your appearance but it made a big difference for me, especially with non Asian girls.

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I_Main_TwistedFate · 2016-08-13T22:39:05+00:00

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Cynical_Doggie · 2016-08-14T00:06:42+00:00

I'm Korean and I've lived abroad in many countries, and in the US, pickup can't be any easier than elsewhere, especially in a college setting.

Work out
Do your schoolwork meticulously
Talk slower and with more deliberation, that is, speak with the fewest amounts of words you can
See yourself as equals to the other 'foreigners'. I know that as a Korean myself, we tend to divide ourselves up into Koreans and foreigners, but the US isn't that way. Black, white, latino, asian, it's all the same. Don't have lower confidence just because theres a blonde white dude that's 6'3 picking up chicks. This is where working out can help boost that confidence.
'Foreign' girls are much easier than Korean girls. Be more forward with your intentions.

Most important of all, you have to improve yourself before anything. That is, get the body you want, get the mind you want, and then, you can get the friends/relationships you want.

During highschool, your parents probably let you do anything as long as your grades were good.

Grades are still important as fuck in the real world, as they indicate effort (as opposed to smarts, as most people believe), and good work ethic is the key to success.

Improve your body. Get a haircut that's fashionable, get clothes that fit. Get a cologne that smells awesome. Take skincare seriously. Whiten your teeth. Get contacts if you wear glasses.

If you value yourself more, you naturally get more confident, and all that 'monkeying around girls for attention' type bullshit goes away.

Also, become friends with handsome looking guys that regularly get girls, and see what they do differently.

Finally, be open to all women. Not just blonde white girls. I know race is a touchy subject, but 엘프녀 isn't the only girls you should be going for.

daviddk07 · 2016-08-13T20:47:15+00:00

If you want to change you life, be proactive. Go out alone, if you can't approach - find a wing so you can push each other to the limits. Its much easier and its more fun. Its okay to be a dancing monkey, but just be YOUR OWN dancing monkey thats self amusement and if people laugh at you. Just laugh and own it. Start read and watch content about pick up and test it out in the field. Break down your sessions and analyze what you did good and bad. Leave with a smile after every approach, even if you have to force yourself. There are a lot of paradoxes and you'll sooner or later realize that this shit doesn't make sense! but embrace it, because its awesome!

When talking with girls show intent, but still be freedom of outcome. ( yeah how? Show them some kind of intent and if they reject you? nothing happens, she just lost the chance to meet a great guy - Be entitled and present to the moment and be self amused, create your own party that can draw girls in.) This is just some of my thoughts and experiences oh and by the way: every time i see a stranger that I'm attracted to, i approach her, because i know this might be the only time where we can experience each other.

I would recommend you watch RSD and RSDtyler videos - they have lots of value and its prob some of the best content on the internet about pickup self-improvement. It definitely changed my life

onionkimm · 2016-08-14T00:03:07+00:00

Start building innate value so you see yourself as a man of true worth. You want to be able to look in a mirror and like what you see. If you don't like yourself, it will show in the way you interact with anyone, women or otherwise. Since it sounds like you're beginning a new chapter of your life at community college, use it as an opportunity to shape yourself into the person you want to be, or at least someone you think would attract women. Start working out. Don't just do random stuff at the gym, research a lifting program for beginners. I recommend Starting Strength if you're just starting out. If your English isn't the best, work on your fluency. I'm a 27 year old Korean guy, and I was a virgin at your age too. But I got my first gf during college and wasn't a virgin by the time I was 20. By now, I've hooked up with more than 10 women, including long-term gfs. It IS possible. I know being an Asian guy looking for a relationship is tough. Most women don't see you sexually but there are women out there who do. And it's getting better everyday as more Asian men appear in western media who aren't complete racist stereotypes. I want to personally thank Steven Yeun as his character on the Walking Dead helped me find more than one woman who found him sexy, and consequently wanted some Asian for themselves, which I was happily willing to oblige. Be happy with who you are. You can't change your Korean-ness, why not accept it and work on the things you can change? Be the best you that you can be and people will notice.

andyzoo987 · 2016-08-14T15:53:32+00:00

Korean American guy here. For one, don't ever look back at your past and let that dictate who you are today. If you keep having those failings in your mind, you'll never make even the slightest improvement. I was a huge outcast in high school, but that completely changed once I got to college where there are more open minded people, and more people in general. Don't be like the guy at Simple Pickup. Even though the canned material works for the right guy with charisma, once the canned material is out the window and she gets to know you the REAL you, it's not going to match up. I think my best advice is to join a lot of clubs and organizations at your college. Let relationships grow organically and just be yourself; as cliche as that sounds. However, you can work on speaking slower, making sure your enunciation is clear. Girls won't mind high energy, but don't speak so much they can't get a word in edge wise. Also, don't be afraid of rejection and let that deter from you pursuing others. Being turned down isn't the worst thing in the world; it can be for a lot of reasons and not all of them will have to do with you. And like the others said, working out and eating well is essential. You will feel better about yourself and will feel more healthy. Set yourself apart from the rest of the Asians out there. If your heart is set on the cold pickup route, go for a variety of women. You'll be pleasantly surprised; your differences can be your biggest strength. Best of luck

_playswithsquirrels_ · 2016-08-13T23:04:44+00:00

There are two things I'm going to point out for you.

The first is that women are not trophies to be won or attained. They are people. When you say shit like "I want to date really hot western girls," it sounds incredibly selfish and closed-minded. Girls don't exist purely to become someone's girlfriend. They have their own upbringings, interests, careers, and dreams. If the only thing that interests you about women is their looks, then you'll never get anywhere in game.

The second is that if you are depressed, then that should be your number one focus in life.

I think this is one of the beautiful things about pickup. A lot of guys come into the game depressed, lonely, and just wanting to meet girls. But then they start to realize game is a lot less about magically finding ways to get a girl, and more about finding ways to improve yourself. And through that self-improvement, you become more attractive to women. Create some goals for yourself and strive to achieve them. Yeah, girls can be part of that, but don't make that your number one priority in life. You need to fix your depression and self-esteem issues before you can get good at game. Those are problems that negatively affect ALL areas of your life.

jefffffffff · 2016-08-14T00:57:33+00:00

Nothing you read here will matter if you don't approach. Approach girls regularly and your life will change.

_playswithsquirrels_ · 2016-08-13T20:42:11+00:00

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Title	18 year old Korean guy. I want to change my life
Author	I_Main_TwistedFate
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Date	August 13, 2016 6:32 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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