How exactly do you get better at seduction?

SinSlayer · 2017-09-20T23:03:04+00:00

Comedy is invaluable in PUA. Don't ever lose it.

Don't focus on learning how to talk to women; learn how to talk to people. I can have a conversation with a five year old as easily as a 65year old, and as easily as a 28yo HB10. They're just people.

Remember the art of conversation is a simple formula: Ask. Empathise. Express. Repeat. Ask a question. Empathise on the answer, usually offering your own personal experience. Express interest or disinterest in the answer. Ask another question.

Don't focus on the outcome. This is a huge mistake and nearly every PUA newb makes it. The goal isn't the close. It's always the approach.

Always remember that you are the one on a pedestal. Not her. You are offering her an invitation to your world, not asking to be a part of hers.

Text is for quick, flirty exchanges. If you want to have a conversation, call her.

Call her. One 20min phone conversation trumps a thousand texts.

And always remember ABE. Always be escalating.

jedipaul9 · 2017-09-20T23:55:11+00:00

You've got to learn to find fun in it. I spun my wheels for years because I couldn't wrap my head around the concept, but if you aren't having fun while seducing it's usually not going to work.

Take texting for example. I used to hate texting girls because I was always too worried that I would say something and that they would not reply. But when I learned to have saying random stuff to girl to see what gets her attention it just became natural.

As for getting better, /u/SinSlayer 's advice is is non-negotiable. I don't think there's any one right way to seduce women. You've got to find a style that suits your personality. This in turn will ensure you seduce the women that like you more for your deeper values than you superficial traits.

For instance, I'm a pretty direct, no-bullshit kind of guy. I don't like to bead around the bush and I definitely don't like subtly. So my style with women is just very direct and clear. When I meet a women, I tell her that I think she looks sexy and make my sexual intentions clear with sexual innuendos based off the things she says to me. My approach works for me because I end up getting rejected by girls that don't want to have sex with me, and hone in on the ones that do.

turtletremor · 2017-09-21T09:07:39+00:00

Stop playing Twisted Fate and play Vladimir for the fat joocy succcs. It comes with a lot of failure, my dude. I've fucked up so many times at trying to talk to girls it's comical. One of the greatest outcomes of it all is telling your buddies and having them laugh at the situation with you.

loafman69 · 2017-09-21T02:15:47+00:00

realize it is an emotional process and not a logical one

GentleDrift · 2017-09-21T07:10:27+00:00

My favorite tip, is to just make her feel something.

It's hard to describe without butchering its meaning

2udaylatif · 2017-09-21T08:29:37+00:00

Read the guides in the sidebar for starters.

If you can engage in small talk you can get dates. Just start asking girls you already talk to to hang out, meet up, study together, etc. Then get their number to text and call them. Then you are on your way.

Lambdal7 · 2017-09-21T08:45:39+00:00

Learn more of the 1000 rules of seduction and when to make use of them and when not pretty much.

petriomelony · 2017-09-21T02:37:08+00:00

At the basic level, socialization is the same whether with women or with men. It's just that with the women you want to get intimate with, you have to initiate physical contact more and show your intentions clearly.

Go out and talk to some random people about situational things. Don't worry about what's going to happen after the conversation, just focus on the actual conversation, focus on listening and actually responding to the person. Get to know them. Eventually you'll be able to talk to anyone, at any time.

Title	How exactly do you get better at seduction?
Author	I_Main_TwistedFate
Upvotes	69
Comments	22
Date	September 20, 2017 10:43 PM UTC (8 years ago)
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