"No more mr. nice guy" question

imthemanyesiam · 2014-08-17T05:01:47+00:00

I dont think its a contradiction. "Nice Guys" should be discontent with who they are and try to self improve. Redpillers may not be discontent with who they are, but theres always room for improvement. No matter how good you are, self improvement is important

RedPillington · 2014-08-17T14:20:51+00:00

you can drive a ford focus and want to drive a lexus, but still be content with the car and enjoy it for what it is. some people are so caught up in things that they would feel ashamed until they get the lexus. which state of mind is more likely to bring you happiness and success?

just because you have not attained your most complete and final form doesn't mean that there is something wrong with you. someone can always point out a flaw, and if you allow that to make you experience negative emotion, you will spend all your time on negative emotion focusing on tiny little flaws.

toysjoe · 2014-08-17T13:44:33+00:00

There's a difference between being content with who you are and being complacent. I'm content with who I am but I know I can keep improving. Complacent means you're just going to stop where you are. Being content with yourself and still wanting to improve isn't contradictory I don't think.

brandor77 · 2014-08-17T16:37:42+00:00

The operative phrase is "who you are". Blue Pill mentality is a lack of self-worth and self confidence, and the tendency is to overcompensate by acting toward others in a way that is different than who they are and how they feel. At a basic level, they feel that they are not worthy of social attention. Red Pill mentality is to feel comfortable with ones self, warts and all. As another comment notes, this is not to say that there is not room for improvement, but knowing with or without that improvement, one is worthy.

[deleted] · 2014-08-17T18:54:26+00:00

self-improvement doesn't always mean that you're discontent with who you are.

For example: I'm a guitar player. I'm pretty good and have played in a few bands, released albums, toured etc.. (nothing big, we're a barely known indie band.). I'm very happy with what I've done, but I know that there's more that I can do with it.

You can also be happy with something like your physique. Say you're in excellent shape, fit and athletic. You could then test yourself even further by doing something like hiking the Appalachian trail (which usually takes roughly a whole season, not many people finish.) Once you do that, maybe you'll go after some tougher climbs, then eventually you'll tackle a life or death pinnacle like Mt. Everest.

Silverbacked · 2014-08-17T19:59:22+00:00

Holding frame is all about being content with who you are and being comfortable exposing that authentic self to others.

Johnny10toes · 2014-08-18T02:20:13+00:00

Discontent and not being Content are the same things right? In NMMNG you shed the old you that says YES to every request that comes your way. You shed the old you that says "No honey that place is fine" when you wanted something else. Most importantly you shed the old you that's a doormat for everyone that has dirty boots to clean on your backside. You challenge yourself. If you are feeling anxious about asking your neighbor to borrow a cup of sugar you just go ask.

Title	"No more mr. nice guy" question
Author	goormann
Upvotes	7
Comments	9
Date	August 17, 2014 4:28 AM UTC (11 years ago)
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