I have a problem with opening a set with a dude in it

brian242 · 2016-11-20T02:44:03+00:00

Well firstly, you are clearly racist. Stop with the bullshit about, "Please don't see me as a racist but". You're racist.

Now, my advice would be to start being honest with yourself and others about your racism. Admit that you don't like your own race to heaps of other people in real life. Even if this is terrifying for you. That's the only way you'll start to become detached from it. If you keep clinging on to this opinion that you're not racist (when you secretly are), you'll stay stuck "pretending" not to be racist while holding a judgemental attitude secretly and being controlled by what you project onto others.

Secondly, it's not that you can't approach. It's that you won't approach. You're using that and other things as excuses and choosing not to approach. The answer to your excuses, is make up as many excuses as you want, and approach anyway, and see what happens.

Idfsupporter · 2016-11-20T09:03:44+00:00

Demonstrate higher value

opital · 2016-11-20T18:34:22+00:00

This is probably going to be downvoted by the bleeding hearts in this sub but...

Have you read about Rachel Dolezal? For basically her entire life no one gave a shit that she wasn't black, because she could code as black. And now that the public scrutiny is gone, everyone who meets her thinks of her as black.

Basically everyone I know who is an ethnicity other than white knows someone from another race that is more stereotypically their race than anyone else in their race.

Race in America is about coding to culture - it's not about genetics.

I don't know what race you want to be or look up to but you can be that race in the eyes of the world. Wear their costume like an armor and blend in.

I know so many Indian dudes who are like you, and one day they're like fuck this shit. I'm going to start acting white. And basically everyone starts to treat them like they are white. Black guys do it all the time.

Brian says you're racist. I don't think you really believe that there is anything genetic predisposing you to XYZ behavior. Your behavior is up to you, you're a blank slate and you're mutable, your brain has plasticity and you can remap your neural networks and be whoever you fucking want to be. You can even be white around white people and super Indian around Indian people and black around black people.

In small ways, everyone does that unconsciously. You don't use the same language with your boss as you do with your mom as you do with your girlfriend.

If I'm hanging out with a bunch of black kids, my speech starts to mimic their slang as I naturally start to blend in.

To open someone who is with another guy, I open the guy and get him on my side. Acknowledge his presence and ad value to the group not just the girl. You're not trying to compete with him, you're goal is to increase quality for the group as a whole. Show interest in him, things he's saying, be an active listener and basically once she stops being the attention center she'll fight for it back.

And you can get a feel for what's going on and if they've got chemistry you can insta wing him, and if they don't he'll eventually jet for greener pastures and quite likely wing you.

hamdanegg · 2016-11-20T23:23:29+00:00

Your mind is just making excuses for why you shouldn't approach. Also you sound racist. Stop making excuses and approach goddammit. Destroy your limiting beliefs. Have a strong frame. If you believe your race is lame, then you will be lame. However if you truly believe that you are a badass and that race has nothing to do with it then you will be a badass. You need to change your belief system ! It is not healthy.

Title	I have a problem with opening a set with a dude in it
Author	bsbnsc
Upvotes	0
Comments	8
Date	November 19, 2016 8:28 PM UTC (9 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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