What to do when a girl starts being disrespectful

LazySwine · 2014-08-31T15:50:52+00:00

A good response in 99% of cases is agree&amplify, e.g. "Actually yes, I am a mathematical wizard. Right now, I can see that the probability of you being a bitch is 99%". You get the idea.

Also, Roissy had an article about this. Check his post: http://heartiste.wordpress.com/2014/08/29/what-to-do-when-a-girl-scolds-you/

Btw. you are an asshole. Making noises when people try to study is annoying.

Mr_Reardon · 2014-08-31T16:23:00+00:00

First step: give people legitimate reasons to respect you instead of numerous examples as to why you're a tool. /u/LazySwine is right, making noises while others are studying is annoying. Of course she asked you to stop and of course her response was to lose respect for you when your clever comeback was to tell her to "fuck off."

Don't put yourself in a position where you're climbing out of a self dug hole to begin with - when she asked you to stop the first time your response should have been some light banter or a joke: "I knew you were looking for a way to talk to me, so I helped out and gave you a reason. You're welcome," or "shush, I'm almost to my epic solo." Whatever. And then you follow up by letting the girl study.

RedPillington · 2014-08-31T16:23:45+00:00

I am ashamed to say I am too busy holding back the urge to punch them than creating a clever reply.

you lost the shit test when you told her to fuck off from a place of anger.

Stayinghereforreal · 2014-08-31T17:01:22+00:00

Telling someone to "fuck off" isn't cool, it isn't edgy, and it sure as hell isn't maintaining frame. It's just being an asshole. Stop doing that. What you should have done is turn it around on her or agree and amplify.

Example 1) You sure are paying a lot of attention to what I'm doing. Wonder why? (Then no matter what she deflects with) It's ok, you don't have to hide it, we all know what you're feeling right now and it's just natural. (Make sure to smile with the last bit.)

Example 2) You're right, I should absolutely change my habits to conform to your desires. What should I do instead?

Edit to add: don't focus on girls while in high school. Now is the time to build the foundation for your life, not have emotional drama. Remember, if you walk down the hill you can fuck them all.

Stayinghereforreal · 2014-08-31T15:52:06+00:00

You care too much what she says. Stop that.

She tried to shame you, because that is what women do when a man they perceive as lower SMV rejects them. By telling her to fuck off, you are indicating with your conduct you have zero interest in bedding her. That threatens a woman's self-image. In order to put you back into your place, she is attacking you. She knows you regard your math skills with pride, so she went after that. If you were a football player stud, she would mock that.

When women have no particular hook into what makes a guy tick, and cannot attack something they think is a weak point, they will go with the generic ones: (1) his dick must be small, (2) he never gets laid, (3) just a lonely neckbeard troll-ugly dude, etc. That is why on the internet, when a woman wants to attack some anonymous guy, they go with one of these generic ones.

The way to be immune to it is to simply not give concern to things women say. Their words change nothing about you, except perhaps, your emotional reaction to the words. So let the words just wash over your utterly impermeable psyche, and see the words for what they are: the woman's own pain and fear, turned into a barb she wants to sink into you.

/stayinghereforreal resumes prior guru-in-meditation mode

RPSavant · 2014-08-31T18:13:40+00:00

seems like you are very aggressive and perhaps angry. Could get you in trouble especially since girls are masters at pressing buttons. Do you get enough exercise?

the hardest thing to do, but probably the best, would be to set up boundaries and reply to her like her father would that she is being disrespectful and that she should stop.

confuseacatlmtd · 2014-08-31T18:50:43+00:00

Say, I am a mathematician. Thats how I know you're a five.

BluepillProfessor · 2014-08-31T18:34:22+00:00

Was sitting with my friends trying to study for a test and I began tapping out a rhythm while doing so. She was next to me and tells me to stop. I tell her to fuck off.

This is not Red Pill approved. This is what we call asshole. No it is not "Alpha" to deliberately bother people trying to study with a juvenile display of fidgeting probably caused by repressed sexual energy. You know Ritalin works real wonders for people who are unable to sit still for 5 minutes and concentrate. Usually they learn by 4th grade but I see more and more college students with your maturity level. Take the pill- and not just the Red one. Just do it.

Before I worried about 'disrespect' I would try to get control of myself. The Alpha response is not a hostile "fuck off." That is the asshole gangster/criminal response. I can't believe I even have to explain this.

Edit: Read some replies. Got it that there was talking and most people were not really studying. So what. My answer stays the same. I do back off slightly because I was harsh since I envisioned this happening in a college library and the actors to be older.

FYI: The proper response would have been something like (said while maintaining hot eye contact and continuing your annoying behavior at a slightly lower level) "I don't take orders very well but polite requests might be accepted." Drag her gently into your frame and force her to comply rather than expressing hostility.

Title	What to do when a girl starts being disrespectful
Author	swallowthisthrowaway
Upvotes	1
Comments	26
Date	August 31, 2014 3:41 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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