When to tell her I'm not interested in marriage?

Stayinghereforreal · 2014-08-31T19:13:41+00:00

Let her raise the topic. No need to disclose where there are no requests for information.

In sum, don't answer questions she is not asking.

AlienSunrise · 2014-09-01T00:58:29+00:00

You met this woman a month ago. You shouldn't trust her, it's that simple.

Counter423 · 2014-09-01T01:30:28+00:00

Wait until she stops doing all those things for you.

Then she will understand why you won't marry.

Mr_Reardon · 2014-08-31T21:04:47+00:00

Worry less about time frame and more about context.

As the conversation presents itself, and it will, let your thoughts on the topic be known. And don't be that literal, wait until she spells out the question in no uncertain terms guy, either - if she brings up goals for future or expresses her own interest in marriage in any way, tell her it's not your gig.

GC0W30 · 2014-09-01T03:52:33+00:00

Just tell her you aren't ready to get married now, and no one knows what the future holds. It is the absolute truth. Maybe you date for 5 years and marriage stops being a bad deal for guys in the interim.... who knows? Seriously, don't talk about it.

LS_D · 2014-09-01T11:52:23+00:00

HAHAHA HAHGAHAHAHAH AAHHHAAHAHAHAHAH HAHAAA

seriously bro? You've been with a girl two weeks!! ffs and you're thinking up marriage?

The Oxytocin is strong in this one brother!

Give it a few years would you please!?

redpilldude · 2014-08-31T19:29:30+00:00

Women always lie about their number. Women know that men don't want to be with sluts. Therefore, sluts will never admit to being sluts.

She sexes me whenever I need, cooks, cleans, good childhood, hot etc.

She's doing this because she wants your commitment (marriage). As soon as you give her your commitment, she will stop doing all those things.

Is this the first relationship that you've been in? You are extremely naive.

rp_divorced · 2014-09-01T13:31:02+00:00

Here's a little story for you. I met a girl recently and went out a few times over the first two weeks. She said all the right things and her actions backed up what she was saying.

Week three rolls around and we meet for dinner. About 45 minutes in, she stops abruptly and says "I've been lying to you. I'm a stripper."

Don't give yourself a specific time frame to have this discussion. You don't know what will happen with this girl.

TheReason13 · 2014-09-01T17:32:20+00:00

Question everything. Logical deduction before emotion. Ignore how things make you feel, good or bad, use logical deduction.

I had an ex that claimed she was a virgin. Of course I was skeptical. The first time I banged her I could feel that she's had a few dicks up there, but she was still quite tight and dreadfully inexperienced. In my mind I thought, "you little charlatan" and I smirked for a second, which was stupid but involuntary. That smirk betrayed the fact that I knew, and the look on her face betrayed that she knew that I knew. She previously would nervously stop at the last moment before intercourse and then act weird. I now knew why. And she knew I knew.

Awkward.

For the next 9 months or so of the relationship it was the elephant in the room, and with every argument she was waiting for me to bring it up. At a party her friends told me, "so she finally found the right guy to give her virginity to, you must be a catch" and I looked at her with the same condescending smirk on my mug. She went quiet for a few minutes while I engaged her friends in discussion about virginity, she was literally pissing herself wondering if I would expose her.

Moral of the story, never listen to what a woman says, focus on what she does. If I noticed the subtle but obvious signs earlier I wouldn't have wasted 4 months waiting to finally get laid.

Title	When to tell her I'm not interested in marriage?
Author	Bigmachiavelli
Upvotes	5
Comments	24
Date	August 31, 2014 7:09 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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