Girl said "i don't know, Ill think about it" to date

IWriteForGroupies · 2017-01-25T11:08:59+00:00

You forget about it and focus on other women.

pm_me_the_best_tits · 2017-01-25T11:43:04+00:00

she isn't interested, move along

Not2original · 2017-01-25T12:43:12+00:00

If it's not a "fuck yea!" It's a no. If they are not excited to want to spend time with you then they don't really want to spend time with you.

exquisito111 · 2017-01-25T12:46:36+00:00

Yeah if it's not a yes, it's a no. The question is, what do you think you could have done better next time?

Xanarxses · 2017-01-25T14:00:05+00:00

Sounds like a "Oh you don't know? Bye."

It's basically the most obvious way to blow someone off without actually saying it.

TheXXL · 2017-01-25T14:39:42+00:00

What now?

These are not the droids... uhm i mean, this is not the girl you are looking for.

Think about it, imaging something you would love to do, like flying to the bahamas to lie on the beach. Now, someone comes to you and tells you: "Hey,i am going to the bahamas for a few days to chill on the beach, you want to tag along, for free?" ... would you now say: "uhm, i dont know, i guess i have to think about it, i will let you know." or would you say: "Yeeeah! i'd love to come with you!"?

The same goes with girls. If you don't get a decisive "yes" you know she is not interested. Don't disrespect yourself by pursuing such a girl.

ieatdicks4 · 2017-01-25T11:42:53+00:00

I feel like most of the advice here is about forgetting about it and brushing it off. I get that there are millions of other women but I just want this girl to give it a chance. It's stupid to forget about it when we probably both like each other and she's just scared for some reason

ieatdicks4 · 2017-01-25T12:03:08+00:00

When we first met he said "you're so cute, I like you" and she said she would also like to get to know me. How can she all of a sudden not be interested

StarwarsITALY · 2017-01-25T13:02:02+00:00

A2 = her giving you ioi’s (Female to Male interest) A3 = you giving her a statement of interest (basically a very clear ioi showing interest in her, Male to Female interest)

But to go FROM A2 to A3, you want to QUALIFY her, otherwise it looks like you give your interest to ANY girl who gives you interest and she assumes it must just be because of her looks which doesn’t make her feel like a special snowflake or like she’s earned you or like you were hard to get (we don’t value a prize we don’t have to work for).

This is the key normal guys miss that makes them look low-value, they’re running around NOT doing A1 (because they may HAVE value but don’t know how to DEMONSTRATE it well (DHV, A1)), so they don’t get much A2 (her interest in them), and they have NO IDEA what the fuck qualifying is (“you want me to play hard to get when a girl is showing ANY sign of interest in me?? Are you CRAZY?!?!?”), so they just go right for seeking rapport/comfort and come off extremely low value to the girl.

Qualifying would look something like she gives you a few ioi’s and you go “what do you do for a living?” with a skeptical look and she goes “I’m in law school” and you go “ohhh, a SMART girl…I LOVE smart girls.” So she feels like “my SMARTness won him over!!”

But then you do it again with like “but wait, you might be TOO smart…you’re not one of those nerdy girls who just stays in and studies all the time, are you? I need a girl who can come out and have fun with me when she isn’t nose-deep in a book at the library.” So it’s kind of like a challenge, you’re challenging her to impress you and trying to put her in roles that she tries to correct you on and “qualify herself” to you, like “nooo!! I mean, I have to study a lot during exams but not right now!” and NOW you can drop a nice big Statement of Interest/Intent showing interest in her (like “a smart girl who knows how to party, you and I are going to be trouble together” seeding a future projection that you’ll be hanging out together in the future) because she’s earned that interest from you, with something that isn’t her looks.

And if she says “I AM I’m such a nerd I never go out!” you DISqualify her and do a playful backturn or exaggeratedly pretend she’s losing you and throw another qualifier at her like “tsk tsk, all work and no play Sally. You must be a Netflix & chill girl, what’s your favorite show.” and then whatever she says go “Oh I love that show we’ll have to watch it sometime” (seeding a reason to isolate later).

Make sense?

And even when you DO show interest in her, you can couch it in more “you won me over” stuff like “you know, it’s weird…when we first met I thought you were just another ditzy bar bimbo ’cause of your looks. I was like oh god this girl is going to be so boring to talk to…but it turns out you’re actually kind of interesting.” (Statement of Interest/Intent, which is also a Pull), then “…but don’t think you’re getting in my pants tonight.” or “…but I’m not sure you aren’t crazy yet” (Pushes, to push/pull her emotions and spike them)

Consider how much more the girl in this example is having to work to get/keep my interest compared to the girl in the average guy example where he’s out just throwing A3 around to any girl who lets him talk to her for more than 5 seconds or lets him buy her a drink lol

Title	Girl said "i don't know, Ill think about it" to date
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Comments	16
Date	January 25, 2017 11:07 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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