Virginity, cancer and paying for an escort.

crawleydown · 2017-03-16T17:29:39+00:00

Hmmmmm.....Many of you may know me from my various field reports.

Story in brief: I'm 30 now. Always been very unsuccessful with girls. On the short side. Not great looking.

Got laid once or twice when I was a little younger (although still much older than when my friends first got laid) down to extreme luck. Then zero girls for over a decade.

Started reading 'pickup' a year or so ago at the age of like 29. Got laid by a teenager on just about my first ever cold approach in a bar! Beginners luck? I guess so..... since then, no sex despite lots and lots of approaches and FR's for you all to read!

NOW, One thing i've never told any of you is I have cancer. Found out a few years ago. Even most of my friends don't know

Dr's tell me that at this second i'm in good nick and there's no obvious danger to my life being cut short at this time, but it is maybe what drives me so hard to keep pushing! The chances of my dying very soon are still higher than most people my age!! Cancer is a fucker.

I still feel like a virgin and I worry about dying without feeling like i've lived a 'normal' life in terms of sex.

What I will say to you, OP, is that after I lost my virginity, I felt like a KING.....BUT, that feeling only lasted for about 2 weeks!

I'd spent every waking hour for years thinking about losing it since all my friends had lots theirs about 5 years prior, and were now all regular pussy slayers. I thought it would change me and make me happy. As I say, that happiness was VERY temporary.

Within a few months, I basically felt as though my virginity had grown back. The fact that I was no longer technically a virgin meant fuck all. It's Hard to explain and I know you're probably thinking ''Yeah, but at least you lost it!!'' but trust me, it isn't as significant as you think

Now, visiting a hooker is never something I personally ever really contemplated. The main (embarrassing reason) being that I am someone who is naturally a little anxious, and the idea of paying a pro, going to her place, there being 'rules' etc as to what I can and can't do with her made me nervous to the point that I doubted my ability to get a boner!!

If it's something that you feel will take the pressure off, then fucking go for it! I sure as shit won't judge you for it! Just be aware that you'll likely learn it's the fact that you can't get girls more than the fact that you haven't ever stuck yuor cock in a girl that makes you feel bad. That's why I probably feel as shitty as you in terms of girls despite my (barely) lack of virginity!! :)

Shurns · 2017-03-16T17:24:01+00:00

Yes, I would pay for an escort. Stop thinking you will feel shame, just do it and after the sex use your time to ask her some questions you surely have, tell her your problems with girls, ask for advices (you pay for the time, not only to cum, so use it to talk as well). It can be a good experience.

WarIsPeeps · 2017-03-16T17:30:30+00:00

Ive fucked maybe 30 girls and I still occasionally pay for an escort or a tug job. No drama, dont have to put in any work.

Just make sure you look at reviews and go to one who likes their job and is passionate and will take care of you well instead of a drugged up stuck up bitch who will just say "ok put it in"

2017-03-17T01:07:17+00:00

Nobody dies a virgin. Life fucks us all - Kurt Cobain

Aeon199 · 2017-03-17T05:34:55+00:00

How is it some guys--like a few of you posting and the OP--try so many approaches over a decade and end up with zero sexual encounters? I find it depressing as hell.

What do you guys think the main reason for this, is?

poonzie · 2017-03-17T05:39:39+00:00

Honest, you do you. There will always be people who agree with you and people who disagree with you in life, but only you can decide what you want. At the end of the day you're the one who has to live with the decision you made.

My two cents: there's no shame in getting an escort, best part about it is that you know you'll be taken care of. (;

CibrecaNA · 2017-03-16T20:22:57+00:00

If you have the money, yeah. Particularly if you're sure that you can't pick up a woman. Problem with hooker is regular sex is better than one-time sex. if you could afford regular sex then a big yeah. But it's a waste of money since pussy should be free.

But like others say--go for a woman who has great reviews and/or you suspect will have great sex. i.e. go for someone who might be athletic. Have her rock your world. Not too many women can have sex well. If your first experience is with a woman with a great body whose great at sex, then that's a better experience than most of us. LOL.

And hey if you have money left over--you can pay for an escort for me too. :P (kidding not kidding)

youngthugsmom · 2017-03-16T23:57:41+00:00

One of the biggest things I can tell you (take this from someone who lost their virginity later in life.) Don't put sex on this pedestal! Sure sex is great but its not this all encompassing thing. Theres more to life then sex. If you want to get an escort and have the funds then go for it. Once you actually have sex you will realize that it is not that big of deal.

Aeon199 · 2017-03-17T05:23:52+00:00

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j3m4090 · 2017-03-22T01:57:23+00:00

I just beat ball cancer about a year and a half ago(made it to my 30's last year). . Now i feel so hypersensitive to failures and over analytical to everything. What did i learn from all this........No one will care. Period. With that being said, you just have to do what you know is right deep down your gut. Sometimes I feel like I'm by myself, the world will never understand. Other days i feel like its my oyster. Just accept your situation and be proud of the fact you where smart enough to not go the opposite route. Others will never understand the true death of ourselves before this sickness but use that grave as a foundation to build something instead of a memorial to who you where. I still get rejected even to this day (by people that know how serious i am with life). If you need someone to talk to Im here for you. Hell, I thank you for making me not feel like im alone with the same situation(literally contemplated suicide last night).

1z1z2x2x3c3c4v4v · 2017-03-17T15:47:27+00:00

I would use the money you expect to spend on an escort, and find a dating or PUA coach, and go that route instead.

Buy a man a fish, and he eats only for that day...teach a man to fish, and he eats everyday.

Find a good coach to teach you how to approach and talk to women, how to ask them out, how to date, and how to get them in bed. It will be time and money will spent!

ogthugnigga · 2017-03-16T22:01:40+00:00

Wanna live? Smoke weed, you'll live.

Title	Virginity, cancer and paying for an escort.
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Date	March 16, 2017 4:59 PM UTC (9 years ago)
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