So how do i pick up girls if i am weird?

DoubleSlapDatAss · 2017-05-31T04:41:37+00:00

I've had the same problem, i love to talk and sometimes it gets out of hand.

What i try to do is listen more, talk less. It is tough but it works!

yelow13 · 2017-05-31T04:47:27+00:00

What you need to do is focus on social cues, try to imitate others (not literally), try things and most importantly, learn from your mistakes. Watch for how people react to what you say, if it's a good reaction, remember it. If it wasn't a good reaction, remember to not do it again.

If people ignore what you said, that's a clue, don't do that again.

You'll improve by trying and seeing what works and what doesn't. Surround yourself with people you'd like to learn from and pick up on their habits.

Act like you're confident, fake it till you make it. IMO better to be silly than boring and right. But at the same time don't be awkward.

miketr2009 · 2017-05-31T04:47:12+00:00

Firsr, don't worry about a few people saying you're weird or different. I've been hearing that my whole life. For every lady who thinks you are too weird for her, there are more who love your kind of difference. I think we need more information to give help on your specific situation. Are you in a smaller community? Are you going to college? Is it a more conservative environment? What kinds of women are you approaching, and through what methods, for example. Also, can you be more specific about what you think is "weird" about you? Unique is a synonym for weird btw. And women who like your particular uniqueness are the women you should focus on and can find happiness with. Don't give the time of day to anyone who says you are weird as though it were a negative thing. No normal average Joe has ever amounted to squat or attracted a wonderful lady through the virtue of his plain vanilla dullness. Just keep that in mind and tell us more so we can help more. I'm kind of guessing that in your context "weird" probably actually means very intelligent, so your jokes for example just aren't being understood or appreciated by most peers. With time that improves, because as people mature, more of them develop a more refined sense of humor. But there are still many brainy complex 19 year old women around. Maybe even try talking to 25 year olds working on a Master's as well? Do not get caught in the trap of idealizing a physically beautiful young lady and falling for your image of her. I hope something I've suggested hits home for you. I have been in a similar situation and felt hopeless, but it was a false feeling of hopelessness. There are many ladies out there for you. It really comes down to a numbers game. The more people you meet, the greater your odds of running into a mutually compatible person.

2017-05-31T05:02:15+00:00

I was like you.

You're trying to hard to impress people with weird and edgy jokes. Instead, let them impress you and focus on jokes that are not so try hard.

Aeon199 · 2017-05-31T05:40:30+00:00

Hyperactive ADHD? in my experience these guys tend to attract women like crazy, even without anything special with looks or height.

The most annoying guy I know (average looks also, average height) gets the most ass, of anyone I know. I never could stand being in a room with him for more than 10 minutes, he never stops talking or saying stupid crap.

You should be able to do the same. Maybe just need more calibration? Maybe you're over-the-top too much?

midnight_toker22 · 2017-05-31T14:44:28+00:00

Embrace it, dude. There's nothing wrong with being weird. It's part of what makes you an interesting, unique individual.

I'm weird. Lots of people are weird. In fact, being weird is pretty normal. Being totally "normal" is boring. Don't change who you are to fit other people's vanilla tastes.

Now, if you're socially awkward, that's a different thing. And if that's the case, there's plenty of guides out there to help you with that.

Let your freak flag fly, brother.

Spaceman7Spiff · 2017-05-31T17:26:14+00:00

This may come across harsh but I think at least a few of the commenters here are tiptoe-ing around it: You seem kinda immature. Which is fine because you're only 19 and god knows 19 year old girls aren't mature either. I remember younger, less mature girls often (not always) being pretty timid, shy and unwilling to step outside their comfort zone which is basically the polar opposite of your personality as you describe it.

What I think you should try to do is (like others here have mentioned) try to listen more and pay attention to social cues. Maybe also work on controlling your impulsiveness. Meditation is really good for things like this as it helps slow down your thought processes.

Also, be careful about saying things like "I'm in a different intellectual league." It sounds pretty arrogant and although, I'm sure you're a smart guy, it would be wise to avoid this type of thinking.

Jack__Knife · 2017-06-01T16:19:10+00:00

Am i suppose to find a girl who is similar to my traits because i have yet to find someone with my personality.

Pick up girls LIKE YOU. Give them a chance. You just might make their day.

ASAP_JAMS · 2017-05-31T05:08:22+00:00

Stop being wierd. Obviously.

Title	So how do i pick up girls if i am weird?
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