Inner game is more important than looks

mkkpt · 2024-03-19T00:39:09+00:00

We are hard wired to communicate sub-consciously our values, beliefs and boundaries. You need to be consciously managing / developing yourself and your internal state of mind.

It's very easy to distract yourself by getting validation from women, instead of doing the painfully hard work of self-reflection, healing, self-acceptance and change. Too many guys in the scene place too much value on how a girl responds, a bad night is not getting laid, not getting a text back. The good night should be where you are continuing to be growing, developing, challenging yourself and living out your values in the world. A good night could mean choosing not to get laid, not to compromise your values.

I think the mixture of women have higher emotional intelligence and humans communicating subconsciously, we have no other options when looking for potential partners but to work on being the best person we can be.

forevergeeks · 2024-03-18T21:11:47+00:00

You need to shift your perspective. It's essential to diversify your dating experiences, perhaps to the extent of seeing multiple women simultaneously. This way, you might even mix up their names, like calling Denise 'Maria' by mistake.

Never idealize a woman, particularly if you haven't been in a close relationship with them.

Mr_Lymphatix · 2024-03-19T05:12:27+00:00

The only way to combat you keeping thinking about this same chick, is to talk to other chicks. I am serious, by approaching and inevitably getting rejected by other hot women, you will get better, and learn not to obsess over one woman. Many men do not get an easy hook up or have some chance encounter leading to a relationship like in the movies. We have to try and fail over and over again, especially in our day and age.

epimpstyle · 2024-03-19T16:24:47+00:00

Just be careful because if you look at a girl several times without saying anything it is scary for her - last year I was in Ukraine and I walked on the street in the same direction as two girls for about 100 meters, they literally thought I was stalking them - see the VIDEO (they were too young for me and I decided to leave after a minute)

I'm 45 yo, 5'7" and getting gray, so you have an idea of how good-looking I am, but that's no reason not to talk to girls in their 20s. If you know that you are not good looking, you can try an indirect approach, because it is very weird to say to a girl "Hi, I saw you over there, you are cute bla bla bla", you will automatically put the girl in a very uncomfortable position, but it is much easier to start talking with an indirect approach. If she gets talkative, she looks at you, she smiles - you can take that as a "green light" and continue talking, otherwise leave. Here is another VIDEO to see what it looks like when a woman likes to talk to you, the whole conversation is 8 minutes long, everything started with a simple question. What I'm trying to say is talk, don't stare, forget about eye contact... just start talking.

alcoyot · 2024-03-19T12:13:53+00:00

Imo it can be kind of overestimated in this stuff, saying that x y or z doesn’t matter that much. It all matters. It struck me the other day that 90% of the community has been made up of ppl who probably shouldn’t be there. Gurus tell you you can be fat, poor, stupid, ugly, short etc, and if you just have this one factor you can succeed. That’s just not the case. You should put in effort to improve all these areas of life. It works a lot better when you have pretty much everything already going for you.

Whole_Narwhal4410 · 2024-03-19T12:18:33+00:00

Losing 150 pounds helped me a shit ton

FemalesPickMales · 2024-03-19T03:30:31+00:00

nowadays they call it "rizz" but they used to call it "swag"

swag isn't learned, but it's installed through early positive reinforcement from girls

i had girls tell me i was hot at 12 and as a result have developed life long confidence and swag

i can tell if a man went through the 12 year old vetting period just by looking at him for like .001 seconds

Title	Inner game is more important than looks
Author	disk1231
Upvotes	62
Comments	10
Date	March 18, 2024 7:42 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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