I had two coffee dates last week that went well enough to get a third date. Because we met during that time, I was paralyzed in fear to kiss her because other people could watch. Being a foreigner living in the States at the moment for work-related further education does not make things easier. I am way too cautious about something that might lead to getting arrested for public indecency because I do not want to lose the opportunity for work-related education and get deported. Even the lady noticed that something was off with me so we decided to go to the lounge during the evening for the third date to grab a drink.

What is the general rule for trying to show some physical attraction to women when in public? Do not give a fuck what others might think or do not do anything in public until you can isolate the women to a more quiet place?

It's lame that sound like a virgin despite not being one. During my 3 long-term relationships, I never had that kind of problem. Everything evolved just naturally. I never suffered from time pressure. But now only have one final chance to escalate if is not already too late because I behaved way too tame during my first 2 dates.