How can I regain my old personality or is it a lost cause?

SteveJabbaUK · 2024-02-11T08:06:18+00:00

Most people have natural default personalities that fit them like a glove. It sounds like the you of 5 years ago was yours, so yes it's very possible to go back to it.

Stop whatever it is you're doing that's depressing you're natural personality and let it come back to you of its own accord.

opex100 · 2024-02-10T23:44:32+00:00

Continue to grow and move forward. For a long time I thought the very same as you, it’s as if I wrote this post, seriously. It’s been a long time since I’ve “lost” my old self, and I’ve tried to chase that but i have not gone back to my old self. I have grown in other ways and really learn more about myself. It is important to be here now, in the present moment. And letting go is an art.

IGetBoredSometimes23 · 2024-02-11T09:15:23+00:00

It's a lost cause, but not for the reason you think.

For most people, the human brain is finally fully formed when you reach age 25 (if you're neurodivergent, it can be even longer). The personality you had five years ago was partially due to not having a fully formed pre-frontal cortex. Personality shifts as your brain continues to develop well into adulthood are unavoidable.

It's also partially due to not having to be a fully functional adult. Sure, you're legally an adult at 20, but most people haven't experienced much life when they're 20 years old.

It sounds like you may have depression, which in these times is not surprising. Perhaps you've been hurt by someone in the past five years and that's got you more cautious when dealing with people. Unfortunately, the only thing that will help you is finding friends and romantic relationships. It's a catch 22 situation. You're nervous about putting yourself out there because of the fear of getting hurt, but at the same time the only way to get over that fear is to go and meet people.

3boodqt · 2024-02-10T22:51:34+00:00

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Own_Watch_2081 · 2024-02-10T23:54:57+00:00

I can relate to that. I used to feel much more confident and natural in my own skin. Now I even feel a bit awkward around my longtime friends. I think I’ve snowballed into paranoia or something sometimes.

Title	How can I regain my old personality or is it a lost cause?
Author	3boodqt
Upvotes	18
Comments	10
Date	February 10, 2024 10:22 PM UTC (2 years ago)
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