I feel stuck.

throwbp · 2014-10-21T21:10:09+00:00

This is why lifting is the #1 suggestion around here. It will boost your confidence and you'll just find yourself acting more masculine. Just be careful that once started it can easily be overdone and people will call you out.

Cryocasm · 2014-10-21T22:59:52+00:00

After finding TRP (which confirmed many of my untested theories that going back to caveman-masculinity is attractive) I immediately switched to a new type of character:

I quit being some ass-kissing, nice-guy faggot. I turned into a knife-packin' psychopath.

My most important step (and this is how it started), is that I deliberately negated interest in everything. I did me. I went and did my shit, I was unavailable (not on my tip-toes about being asked to go out for a beer, now I fuckin tell people to show up. See the turn of tables?)

Stop caring. I'll tell you one thing I know for sure: if it makes you go out of your way, don't do it.

Now this might be hard to apply, you only understood the theory, but you are re-wired (falsely) to immediately jump at the first opportunity and care care care. You are subconsciously driving yourself to care. It takes time to destroy this behavior because it's in your subconscious. I have a lot of experience with self-control and self-observation, so it was much easier for me to "rewire" my cerebellum.

I'll tell you that all you need to do, is every-fucking-time you get asked to give an opinion or you feel something is demanded of you, catch yourself and say to yourself you know, let's do it differently. Make it a habit to before you respond to anything (like a text), to go "wait a minute, what do I want?".

Also here is something that might be hard to take: you're blowing your ego out of proportion. Never make such great assumptions as "I basically predict how a woman is going to act". It's naive as fuck. You're just as naive and conceited as the people you're talking to if you do this. Don't be naive. Question everything. Create a second perspective. Exit your current perspective. Here's a short version of how it went for me (note: I benefited greatly from TRP and quickly gained much higher value friends, which helped build the way I handle situations).

Beta as fuq: "omg wow tonight's gonna be so great im going out with my friends hihihiiihihi and she'll be there too"

This night goes out empty for you. You buy a few beers, don't talk too much, sit in the corner basically. It was a waste of your time. This is because your subconscious was so delighted to be included.

Half-way: "im tired and broke but wow lots of people out tonight there might be A or B, he's pretty cool lets see what will happen"

This night is better than the previous one: your expectations are lower. Your subconscious has adopted to weighing it twice or three times. Is it really worth going out? Keep yourself from going out. I did it, I missed some pretty great weekends (as I saw from photos and texts), but it helped build my judgement.

Where Cryocasm is now: "man the week beat me up, and not even my closest buds A or B are out, looks like a night in with some [hobby] and [food]."

My subconscious now weighs what I didn't weigh back when I was beta. I included ME. My cost in going out. Do I want to put the clothes on, wash my face, get money, etc? Do I really want to? Are these people even fucking interesting?

Basically, your value will go up once you start respecting yourself. Is it in your interests to be unnecessarily nice to everyone? You loose value. Is it really in your interests to go every single time someone else blows their whistle? You're just a follower. Be a leader of yourself. As a result a more "alpha" attitude and personality will show up.

I know this post is lengthy and even somewhat meta to this question, but think very hard about it. When deciding if you're up for something, are you really? Are you even considering yourself?

Keep in mind that you should not act like a remorseless asshole, that's bad and not TRP endorsed at all. I choose to be a dickhead because I like fucking with people, but I did that since birth. It's more fun for me to fuck around because I'm higher value now. But don't think that being an asshole = top SMV.

truchisoft · 2014-10-21T23:05:10+00:00

Lift, you don't need to hit the gym, just do the 6 week plan, and the 7 minute workout.

You can search in your phone store for the 6 week plan, usually they are:

100 pushups
200 squats
200 sit ups
150 dips
50 pull ups

To start with you don't need more.

This way you will feel stronger, fitter, better, T levels will increase and yadda-yadda-yadda, read the sidebar and also the recommended books.

tombreck2 · 2014-10-21T22:21:50+00:00

Watch a TV show with a Red Pill character (Don Draper, Frank Underwood Hank Moody, etc.) and observe how they act. Watch dozens of episodes and eventually you will naturally start to say lines from the shows and your demenor will start to correlate with the characters demenor.

oldredder · 2014-10-22T03:21:58+00:00

It's normal for those men born beta, not brainwashed to act beta who are actually alpha.

The best you can manage is to put a lot of effort in to use game & build value and act alpha. You're not alpha.

Dogs, bulls, cats, etc., can smell who's alpha. It's that clear, it's a chemical state, it's what you were born to be. That doesn't mean you can't use game but you aren't a real alpha.

Don't be choked up, most men aren't.

Title	I feel stuck.
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	7
Comments	18
Date	October 21, 2014 8:57 PM UTC (11 years ago)
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