Good looking Guy, But don't get Noticed

asthebroflys · 2017-12-04T17:26:28+00:00

Smaller goals.

Your goal should just be “say hi, make some quick chit chat and a decent impression, then bail.”

Don’t worry about getting a number, or text game, or any of that other stuff. That comes later when you’re comfortable.

Focus on that and I promise you’ll do great.

SinSlayer · 2017-12-04T17:31:21+00:00

For most men, the leading cause of AA is focusing on the outcome. The close is never the goal. The approach is always the goal. Once you approach a girl, there are a dozen things that will affect your close, so just focus on the approach. Just walk up and say "Hi. I'm WhiteLightning. How are you?" That's it. Don't focus on anything but that part. After a few times, your AA will vanish completely.

ImJustSo · 2017-12-04T17:25:55+00:00

You ever done anything scary before?

Back in Arizona we didn't have much to do in the summer but find water and jump in. The cliff diving was a blast, but the first jump was always the hardest.

You gotta psyche yourself up and go through all these worries about how the water will be shockingly cold, you might slip, hit your head, drowned, break an ankle.

Or you could show up take one look and know what you're going to do (which is jump) and you know that anytime you wait it gets harder to do.

So you learn to quit thinking before jumping. You see a cliff and you know the scary process involved right before jumping, and you know after jumping that you'll be elated.

So you train yourself to see the jump, walk up to it, and jump the fuck off without letting your mind fuck with you.

weallwantsomethink · 2017-12-04T18:31:32+00:00

Doesn't matter how good looking you are.

Only 1 in 10 women take initiative.

So for every girl who approaches you 10 have to be interested. I think only about 1 in 30 guys can pull that off.

That he walks in a bar and just waits and leaves with someone because he gets cold approached.

But being an 8+ and doing the approaching yourself extremely improve your chances.

Shaney96 · 2017-12-04T18:14:49+00:00

My problem-solution may help you out:

I have an inherent problem with sexual expression. Therefore, when I see a girl I find attractive, my thought pattern generally runs along the lines of: "Damn, she's attractive, but if I approach her and it goes well, it may lead to sex and me having to escalate, which is scary as fuck. Also, she'll know what I want, and because I don't have enough self-confidence, she'll be unnatracted as she won't find me attractive enough to want to fuck".

See the problem here? I'm being totally outcome DEPENDENT. The idea is to become outcome INDEPENDENT. Now, how does one 'become' that? Well, practice, first and foremost. Try observing your mind patterns and the futility they provide. Focus entirely on the now and the 'hello, I'm LikeWhiteLightning, nice to meet you', rather than focusing on the idea of rejection and the possibility of having to escalate etc..

tony18215 · 2017-12-05T07:20:29+00:00

How about you check them out or wave at them. I used to be like you and still am...When I check them out and if they blush or look back at me like they are interested I wave .Then I go up to them and say hey do you have a snap chat... Then I usually get to know them better that way..

MagicStar77 · 2017-12-05T07:27:47+00:00

They do check out guys, but they do it very hidden. Figuring out if she's single and available is the trick.

Title	Good looking Guy, But don't get Noticed
Author	LikeWhiteLightning
Upvotes	4
Comments	12
Date	December 4, 2017 5:04 PM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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