Repulsed by a girl "abused" by other males

wakethfkupneo · 2014-11-27T15:42:13+00:00

You are drugged with blue pill poison because the two of you are in honeymoon phase. Yes it's sweet, but it won't last long - max 3 years in absolutely ideal circumstances.

That bitter feel tearing you from the inside is your gut instinct - self defense mechanism that we here praise and modern feminized society tries to shut down completely ("Man Up! Marry a slut!!").

You are LTRing a slut. Emotionally unstable slut. You cannot even deny that to yourself, no matter how hard you try. To make thing even worse, if you search this sub you'll find numerous studies how women's high dick count affects their ability to bond - tl;dr: she's permanently damaged and very bad candidate for committed relationship (nothing wrong with FWB/plate but you can't do that now).

She is sweet and nice at this phase and you two are cool and happy. Do you think it will always be like that? Have you ever seen a couple that never argued? Of course not. Impossible. Now, since we men are rational beings, let's think rationally for a moment:

You are guaranteed to get into a fight at some point
She has self esteem issues and will be hurt when that happens
What will she do? Bearing in mind that past behavior is always predictor of future behavior, what is she most likely to do? What is she used to doing when emotionally weak, or whatever you call it? That's right, jumping on new cock. Doesn't take a genius to figure that out.

There, I've just put in words what your gut is trying to tell you by "... combination of anger, insecurity, repulsion, powerlessness, bitterness ...". You can try to ignore the warning but then you'll deserve everything that'll inevitably hit you.

I'm not trying to tell you to dump her or downgrade to plate or something else - ultimately it's up to you. I'm just warning you not to ignore your gut instinct or 'fight it' or expect to 'go away'.

Soultrane9 · 2014-11-27T16:21:27+00:00

and her trying to engage them emotionally.

This is where you go wrong and causes your emotional problem. You are trying to force her unicorn image. You state she was "abused" by these guys while she just wanted to emotionally engage them. You are bullshitting yourself!

While it probably happened at least with one guy, it's sure as hell it wasn't the case for every one of them. Let's discuss this point of yours:

Vision of dudes just wanting to cum using her body

You know that's her biggest turn-on, right? That's what alpha fucks is. It seems to me you haven't accepted this fact of women fully. You feel powerless because these men were more powerful than you are. As i read somewhere: "Everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power".

I also want to point out where she is bullshitting you and you are falling for it:

She says she was very lonely, insecure and

and blahblahblah. Poor me. She made you believe her victim status. Your mistake is giving an emotional reaction to her sob stories. She was sluting it up and sold it to you as "loneliness" and "insecurity".

The problem is it's 100% you are not the best mate she had. The problem is you are already having oneitis. Should you LTR her? In your condition, hell no. Why would you? You only LTR pre-carousel girls who are at least 1 point below your SMV but 2 is better. Every other girl is a waste of resources.

Misteralcala · 2014-11-27T20:55:23+00:00

With women like this, as with all women, you can't have expectations - because that's how you get disappointed. Enjoy the ride while it lasts, realizing that she could relapse onto the CC at any time or leave you for somebody who gives her more tingles at the drop of a hat. Use protection, have fun, but don't be surprised or disappointed if / when it ends. Just be ready to move on if you see any huge glaring red flags or signs of her behavior getting out of control. She's a drop in an endless ocean - if she doesn't please you, others will. You're the prize, not her - she gave her prize up willingly and easily. Have fun, relax and keep your bullshit detector turned on just in case.

Title	Repulsed by a girl "abused" by other males
Author	throwaway49794
Upvotes	9
Comments	18
Date	November 27, 2014 2:23 PM UTC (11 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/askTRP
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