How do you overcome limiting beliefs?

ImJustSo · 2018-01-15T03:30:16+00:00

Yep, go get rejected a bunch and realize that it ain't no thang, but a chicken wang.

kylerosa21 · 2018-01-15T05:26:33+00:00

If you consider yourself assertive with everyone except women your age, spend time trying to find out what made you assertive with those other people and start making it a part of you when you interact with women your age.

I had a similar problem (much odder one) with foreign women. I am much more confident with Brazilian women than i am with American women (Brazilian-American, i visit family in Brazil often). I took some time to sit back and think about why i was more confident (and better) with Brazilians instead of Americans; i found that it boiled down to me not caring about what i said.

Once i discovered that, i began a mental process of incorporating it into my lifestyle here. My thought process in Brazil was basically: i don’t live here, so why should i worry about what i say if i won’t be anywhere near these people again?

I took that and altered it to make it fit my life in the US, and my thought process has turned into: I am looking forward to a great future, so why should i worry about what i say if I’m going to be onto bigger and better things anyway?

This is probably a unique situation and not many people (if any) are going to ever find themselves in a predicament like this, but i believe the logic is the same. It involves you sitting back, analyzing what you do differently in both scenarios, and then making the appropriate adjustments.

Conor_Niggregor · 2018-01-15T04:19:57+00:00

back in the hardcore PUA days, it was self-hypnosis. It fucking worked. But now dudes don't believe in it anymore. I read the Game and actually tried it. works, brah

recyclablebanthas · 2018-01-15T15:09:03+00:00

Go out and join up with some mixed groups of men and women. There are ton of them out there that have FB groups and events that you can look up very easily. So many options. Here are just a few:

Hash runs. Trail running + beer + fit people = win
Couchsurfing meets. Hang with travelers and people who like to be around travelers.
Social partner dancing. Salsa, Lindy Hop, West Coast Swing, Argentine Tango, etc. You really can't go wrong. Learn something fun and have an excuse to be close to a girl in a fun and non-threatening way. (Just respect it as an activity & means of self-improvement first, and place to meet women second.)
Download the Meet-up app. Scan for groups near you that you share an interest with.

2018-01-15T03:34:22+00:00

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DrakeRae · 2018-01-15T03:31:51+00:00

It's best not to not have high expectations. Realize that you will be getting rejected a lot. It's best to start approaching as soon as possible so that you realize this because time will be wasted and improvement in social skills with girls will be impossible.

Shift your focus to improving your conversation skills through every approach by learning through your mistakes. One thing that I can assure you is that lots of girls will not be interested. It's just not under your control because many girls are being bombarded with guys they're more familiar with than a complete stranger. However, there also girls that are not closed minded to meeting strangers and will be very interested. The only way to find those girls is to not take rejections personally and focus on improving your skills. Girls will come if you think that way. Don't think about it. Just take action.

Title	How do you overcome limiting beliefs?
Author	cyrilan
Upvotes	8
Comments	10
Date	January 15, 2018 2:30 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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