Suffering from "Not good enough-itus"

me_like_bikes · 2018-01-19T02:10:21+00:00

iHasABaseball · 2018-01-19T14:34:54+00:00

Therapist, friend. Reddit is great for advice, but you need consistent cognitive behavioral therapy to turn negative core beliefs into positive ones. The brain is no different than any other organ. Are you going to be able to run a 10K by just hoping your lungs/heart will work? No. Will you be able to run a 10K by sporadically running here and there when you feel like it, maybe once a week or a couple times every few weeks? No. You have to train consistently...3, 4, 5 times a week to strengthen your lungs/heart and train them how to handle the stress. The brain is the same. It needs frequent and consistent training to deal with everyday stresses, manage anxiety, and maintain positive thoughts the majority of the time (nobody is always positive).

If you shovel McDonald's into your body and neglect frequent, consistent exercise, guess what happens? You get fat, out of shape, feel like shit, and...diabetes. If you allow negative thoughts to simmer in your mind and neglect frequent, consistent cognitive therapy (in some form or another), guess what happens? Your brain assumes that default, you feel like shit mentally, and you get nice bouts of anxiety and depression.

It sounds like you're doing awesome and just need that little extra push to wrangle in some negative thoughts about yourself. You could Google cognitive therapy exercises and try to do them on your own for a bit, but you have to stay consistent. If you have trouble sticking to it, a weekly therapy session can do wonders for helping you through the exercises and keeping you accountable (same as hiring a personal trainer or nutritionist).

domable19 · 2018-01-19T01:54:47+00:00

Not anymore, thanks i was tweaking😸

Ragondux · 2018-01-19T10:13:53+00:00

I feel like I'd just be embarrassing myself to make a move. [...] Any advice on how to take another step forward?

Maybe try making it you goal to embarrass yourself. If your goal is to close, then failure is embarrassing. If you decide you're going to embarrass yourself (as the first step of a learning process), then if you get turned one, you've succeeded, and if you close, then it's just a bonus.

ethical_pa · 2018-01-19T17:57:46+00:00

I would suggest getting professional help. Do some research and find a therapist that can help you achieve your goals.

EDIT: It's expensive but you said you are doing well. May as well invest in yourself.

circlhat · 2018-01-19T20:57:13+00:00

Because you were taught something is wrong with you if you can't get women, then told how to get women by being someone you aren't.

Once you understand you can be yourself around women it will be easy, but this times practice, as men we were told to respect women rather than treat women how we feel

Tanker_360 · 2018-01-29T22:04:32+00:00

Thanks everyone

ImJustSo · 2018-01-19T03:56:13+00:00

Yeah, see a doctor and check testosterone levels.

Title	Suffering from "Not good enough-itus"
Author	Tanker_360
Upvotes	5
Comments	9
Date	January 19, 2018 1:43 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/7revah/suffering_from_not_good_enoughitus/
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