Public Success Does not Equal Game Success

frankduxing · 2018-02-01T00:46:00+00:00

A nice guy with fancy toys and no confidence that doesn't present a challenge is not going to do that well with ladies.

Instead of relying on those things to define you, use them as icing on the cake.

recyclablebanthas · 2018-02-01T03:43:17+00:00

Based on your title, you're on the right track, but let's go through this, point by point.

1

I am a lawyer, I drive a Tesla, and I live in a sweet city. All of these things have not made my game any better.

"Seduction" is essentially socializing, when you get down to it.

When it comes to actually interacting one on one with someone, where the money comes from, doesn't matter. Not with regard to your ability to actually interact. Where you live, doesn't matter. Your possessions don't matter, either.

What matters are social skills and how/where you find people to socialize with.

Now, to a degree, you require social skills to do your job, but the legal profession can often lead to a view of social interactions that is cynical, fear-based, and/or detached, because of the competitiveness and the negative aspects of human nature that often lead to litigation.

So your career might be at odds with the sort of social skills that might be most helpful.

2

Albeit the only thing women know about my outward success is that I am a lawyer, but even that doesn't necessarily make them hotter in my eyes.

I can't imagine a less relevant thing, than people knowing about your success. I can't imagine how that would help you socially, or how it would make OTHER people hotter.

Actually, if you're broadcasting your job as a lawyer or that you drive a Tesla, etc., you socialize with people, that can have the effect of screening out well-adjusted people and leaving you with sycophants and predators. I wouldn't recommend that.

3

Inner game is greater than outer game.

Couple things here.

What you've described: your career, car, the city you live in....... NONE of that is outer or inner game.
Outer Game is behavior. It's what you say and what you do. Actions and words.
Inner Game is mindsets, philosophy, thoughts, emotional intelligence, etc.
It's not a question of Inner Game or Outer game! It's both. Saying that one is better than the other, is like trying to decide which is more important, breathing or eating.

4

At least that's what I have to tell myself as I don't know why I seem to only run into women that have boyfriends.

You've said absolutely nothing about what your social life is like or how you have constructed it. This would almost certainly play a role.

However, the fact that you ONLY run into women who have boyfriends, is wildly improbable. It's more likely that you're merely attracted to women who have boyfriends for some reason. Perhaps on some level, it's safer emotionally to pursue unattainable women. Only you could say.

But it's statisitically impossible that every girl you just happen to be interested just happens to be taken. **It's more likely that one some level, you're tilting the odds in any number of ways:

Pre-selecting girls by subconsciously avoiding single girls.
Repelling single ladies, subconsciously.
Personal baggage that leaves you subconsciously focused on girls who aren't available.

But as you've really said nothing to give context, no one can really say for sure, except you, why you're only "finding" girls who aren't single, when statistically, you should go to Vegas with that kind of luck.

NoloRadio · 2018-02-01T04:00:13+00:00

And I used to manage a nightclub and get invited to all the afterparties, but I was still shit with women, because my communication skills were bad and I had a huge ego. Work on being a better conversationalist.

BetterBeLuckyThanGud · 2018-02-01T01:22:11+00:00

It's not what you have , but who you are. The magic that enlightened me was , you can be whoever you want to be =)

Good luck on your journey !

kradt · 2018-02-01T03:19:48+00:00

It's like the himym when Barney shows Ted that architects are hot and it all is about how you say it

Title	Public Success Does not Equal Game Success
Author	Thenewghost
Upvotes	9
Comments	6
Date	February 1, 2018 12:25 AM UTC (8 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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