Hey everyone,

For background, I'm a reasonably attractive student on a college campus. Been unsatisfied with online dating, so about six months ago I decided to ditch it all and get good at approaching and flirting in person. I've done most of my approaching at bars at night, but been trying to get good at approaching during the day.

The approach was Saturday afternoon at around 12pm. Watched some daygame infield videos for half an hour or so for inspiration. I went onto campus specifically to get lunch and do a few approaches before heading off to work. Walked into my favorite little Chinese restaurant and got into line to order. While waiting, I looked around and made eye contact with a cute girl in big glasses sitting by herself back near the entrance. Made a note of this. I ordered and sat down at a table to wait until my number was called (it's usually quick here, so I wasn't worried about her leaving or anything). Told myself I would approach on the way out. Took some deep breaths to stay calm.

They called my number, I got up to get my order. On the way out, we made eye contact again. Didn't let myself think about it further. Approached her and tried to speak calm and slowly. "Excuse me," I said. "This is kind of forward, but I was standing there in line and saw you sitting here with your cute glasses and thought you seemed interesting. So I thought I would come introduce myself and say hi." (Or something like that, I was so nervous I don't completely remember.) She smiled and said awe and thanks! She asked me my name (big IOI) and we exchanged quick conversation about being students, what we were studying, etc. She had a dining-in tray and so I commented that it was shame for her to be eating alone. She said she just finished a final and was just here to have lunch real quick before going to work. Told her I was was just grabbing lunch before work as well. Followed with, "You know, this is kind of spontaneous, but would you mind if I joined you? I can't stay long, but it's always nice to have someone to eat with. It's totally fine if not." She said yes, and we talked for about 20 more minutes. Lots of engagement and questions from her. Eventually checked my watch and thanked her for the company. We got up and exchanged numbers. Text her afterwards and she responded! We set up a date for Wednesday. Later that night I told a couple female friends what happened and one said it was the "most adult dating move" she's ever heard of. I'm still kind of surprised myself, I've spent years of being frustrated/unsure how to proceed when I see an attractive and interesting women during the day.

Some thoughts on things that helped make the approach successful:

  1. This sub. Seriously, wish I had found out about this place years ago.
  2. Watching James Tusk videos on daytime approaching. I've found Tusk's videos on infield approach to be no-bullshit and repeatable ways to approach women honestly while embracing vulnerability and the possibility of rejection. I watch a few vids I have tabbed to inspire and get in the right mindset when I'm on the bus or thinking of approaching that day.
  3. Setting aside time to specifically practice approaching. I always tell myself I'll daytime approach, but I'm usually busy with school/work and it's easy to make excuses. Need to get better at this, but setting aside time before my day began specifically to approach was a huge help. Not sure why I haven't thought to try this before.
  4. Non-verbals. I don't remember much of the words of the convo itself because I was nervous and hung over from the night before. But I spoke slowly and deliberately and held eye contact well.
  5. Noticing. Noticed her IOIs, which made it much easier to approach and escalate.

Thanks for all the inspiration Seddit! Keep approaching and keep improving folks.