Please help me

judahman8 · 2018-05-08T12:53:16+00:00

Think of it like this. If I was an amazing artist wouldnt I want to show people? Shes proud of how she looks and she likes people to acknowledge it. Whats the problem? Its no different then dressing up nice when she goes out. You dont say I think you look great so why do you need other people to see you? Your problem is you are either insecure about something or you are being selfish. She wants to do it and that should be enough of a reason right there. Who cares why? Be proud of how hot she is. Like a nice car you should want to show her off. If you were dating a playboy model would you be like why are you taking pics for everyone to see? Grow up bro or you're gonna blow yourself out of the relationship. Even if she was naked whats the big deal? If she goes to the beach are you gonna be like don't take any pictures and post them? You are overreacting

t1mman · 2018-05-08T16:37:14+00:00

IMHO: If you don't trust her judgement, don't trust her with others, don't trust her to say "no", it's the beginning of the end. She can push someone away, she can act with her morals and do what is right.

Do you trust yourself to make her wana do that? Do you act in a way that you are not the "replaceable servant" or do you act in a way that you know you can be the answer to those "needs"? Do you act like the "prize"?

You don't understand why she does that because you don't want to understand, you ask rhetorically "why she does that", not wanting an answer but wanting confirmation that she shouldn't do it. Ask yourself, really, in a curious way, what is the need she is responding to when she does that? The need for significance? Does she feel like she "exists" in that way? There is a basic need under what we do, and if you want her to stop doing something, make her respond to her need in another way.

You can read more on the core human needs here: https://www.tonyrobbins.com/mind-meaning/do-you-need-to-feel-significant/

sinbad2011 · 2018-05-08T18:58:11+00:00

Here is the thing with social media...it is social. Girls are social. This is how you're social nowadays. So, if your girl posts often, it is not a problem.

WHY you worried about it is the issue. You're being insecure man. You're afraid that the girl will leave you for some dude? If she leaves, so what? Get the skills to have options in life. Worrying about it will only make you needy and she will see that you're being too controlling. That is very unattractive.

But, if you have a problem with her posting pictures semi nude, then that is a valid concern. You need to communicate that to her as a man. Be like i wanna be one of the only guys who see you naked. Ask her why she wants to post those and if she has a good reason or she just wants to get more followers, then that depends on you being cool with it or not. I myself wouldn't mind. Trust.

hunterpua · 2018-05-08T20:33:45+00:00

As the Charlie Puth song goes, she just wants attention.

Its not necessarily that she wants to show off her body, its that out of everything she's posted, the photos of her body are the ones that gain her the most attention.

Btw, you don't need to worry about the guys that give her all that attention. They hurt their chances with her by giving her all that attention.

Think about it. Either there have been a bunch of girls that gave you their attention a lot and you didn't think much of them but then you met your girlfriend and you wished nothing more than to get her attention and you worked really hard to get it...or...girls never gave you attention before then she comes along, gives you attention, it felt so good then you worked hard and did your best to make sure she constantly gives you that attention.

We are attracted to that which retreats from us.

Let me explain it in a different way. We all want money but there is a difference in how we use money depending on how we get it. If you won $1000 at a little raffle at work, you'd likely call up a bunch of your friends to have a night out or go on a trip with your girlfriend. But if you had to work extra hours to make that same extra $1000 on top of your usual pay, you likely wouldn't be too loose with that money. You'd probably save it or invest it or just take a small percentage from it to buy your girlfriend a gift but you'll want to keep most of it.

What's the difference? You didn't have to work for the $1000 you won so you value it less but you did have to put in extra hours for the other $1000 so you value it more.

So rest assured that those guys who comment or message her because of her hot body will get nowhere with her because she gets their attention with minimal work (just the act of taking a photo). However, be worried about the fact that YOU react so strongly to her posting those photos. They not only turn her off because you don't trust her but they also turn her off because she's getting so much attention very easily FROM YOU when she posts one of her sexy photos

If you turn her off too much, that's the only time you should be worried about all those guys in her social media because she might get so sick of you that she might just fuck one of those guys to piss you off so it leads to a breakup.

Understand that there is so much of your relationship depending on your ability to ignore these photos. Try it. Pay zero attention to her sexy photos or the comments of other guys. Literally just don't look at them. You don't need to look at her photos, she's your girlfriend, you can look at the real thing, you can fuck the real thing. Now as you pay less attention to her, watch as your she starts being more and more clingy with you, being more and more horny whenever she's with you, and trying harder and harder to get your attention.

TL;DR Don't worry about all the attention she's getting from other guys, worry about making her work hard to get YOUR attention because she does not value or respect those guys but she will sure as hell value and respect you if you make her earn your attention all the time.

plowzedong · 2018-05-08T17:13:49+00:00

1) She isn't "making you insecure." You need to get a grip on your emotions. Quit blaming your problems and your internal monologue on other people.

2) Every girl is an attention whore. Deal with it.

3) If you tell her to do something or not do something, and she doesn't listen - then she doesn't respect you. Break up with her immediately.

4) The reason you won't do #4 is because you lack other options and are needy as fuck. That's probably why she doesn't respect you.

The solution is always the same. Talk to and flirt with more girls. If you want a bullshit lie about how you just need to communicate openly, take that shit to r/relationship. They'll tell you a bunch of nice-sounding bullshit that won't help you at all. The way to improve with one woman is to get good with women. That means not being a pussy who easily commits and invests into a single girl.

As it stands now, your relationship is basically over.

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Title	Please help me
Author	SunAsRock
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Date	May 8, 2018 11:26 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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